Anger is an emotion, in other words, we have no control over its appearance. It just happens. But we can learn to calm our anger. We can even learn to become less and less angry, and more and more calm. But how? Where do we start? Here are 3 powerful steps to good anger management.

1 – Recognizing the signs of anger

Anger is easy to recognize: our tone of voice rises, our complexion turns red, our fists and jaw clench, our breathing quickens…

We get angry when we feel our limits have been reached, so a surge of energy drives us forward to set things right.

The problem is that anger, when unmanaged, can be accompanied by violent words and actions. Things we regret very quickly, because they break relationships and spoil our lives.

Not to mention that anger has harmful impacts on our physical health.

So, if you want to manage your anger better, it’s important to start by recognizing the signs of anger.

To do this, listen to your body for a few days. Feel your anger and see how it affects your body.

2 – Analyze the situation for effective anger management

Once you know how to recognize the signs that you’re angry, take a few moments to reflect on the situation that triggered it.

Where are you now? What are you doing? Who’s with you? What did they say or do? And why are you feeling angry in this situation?

Analyzing the situation allows us to manage our anger better, because in the future, we can make sure we don’t have to go through these same situations again. By transforming or avoiding them, for example.

3 – Physical relaxation for good anger management

So, you find yourself in a situation that has triggered anger. What should you do now?

It’s essential to relax your body. To do this, breathe more calmly. Relax your shoulders and neck. Loosen your fists and jaw.

To succeed in relaxing despite your anger, it’s sometimes imperative to physically get out of the situation, i.e. move to another room, and sometimes even further away.

Because, in the early stages, it’s really hard to relax physically. Your anger will have too much hold on you. And it’s only with time and practice that you’ll get better and better at calming yourself down.

Accept this learning process, and go through it step by step.

Find out more about managing your emotions

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover How to calm your anger? 3 tips to adopt urgently
Discover I’m always angry: 3 golden steps to free yourself from anger

In addition, I recommend this inspiring book on the subject:

Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat Hanh
At first, this book will seem boring and tedious to read, but as you progress through this antidote to anger, you’ll discover that this book is perfect for controlling your anger and aggression, but don’t underestimate your anger, it can sabotage your life in ways you can’t even imagine, so be vigilant!
I highly recommend it

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself.