We don’t immediately realize that we’re running around and out of breath, and then, one day, we become aware of our mental load. So how do we get rid of all this weight, this stress of things to do? Here are 3 simple tips to apply at home and at work.

1 – Take stock of your mental load

First of all, it’s essential to take stock of what’s really weighing you down.

In fact, it’s quite possible that you’ve waited until the last moment to realize that you can’t take it anymore and that your mental load is too heavy.

That’s why you’re feeling like you’ve had enough and want to throw it all away.

So breathe.

Because, in your daily life, your personal and professional life, there’s good, sweet, beautiful, but you just can’t see it anymore.

And that’s normal. So take a breath and take stock.

Take a sheet of paper and write down all the activities you do at home and at work.

Then, give each activity a grade. Out of 5. 5 means I like it a lot and 1 means I don’t like it at all.

In addition, I invite you to add one last list: list at least 3 things, 3 moments that you particularly enjoy at home, then at work.

This way, you’ll be able to look at your daily life in a more positive and benevolent light, and your mental load will seem less insurmountable than before.

2 – Talking about your mental load

Once you’ve taken stock and have a clearer idea of the things, activities and moments that stress you, that weigh you down and that you don’t like, then you can talk about them.

So, if your mental load is household, talk to your partner.

And if it’s a professional mental load, then talk about it with someone you trust and who has the power to help you change certain things.

The problem is, how do we talk about our mental load?

Because, quite often, this mental load makes us feel a lot of anger towards others, the people around us who don’t seem to be of any help.

So how do we dare talk about it, or even ask for help?

To communicate as easily and calmly as possible, make sure you talk only about yourself, and use the “I” form.

In fact, if we talk about our mental load with “you” and “you” heavy with reproach, we won’t be heard.

Then, you can practice talking about it, in writing, then in front of your mirror, for example.

3 – Don’t adapt and find solutions

Very often, we don’t dare look our mental workload problem in the face.

And we don’t dare talk about it, because we think it won’t help.

So we’re tempted to adapt to it, to accept it as an additional constraint in our daily lives.

Above all, don’t make this mistake.

You’re not here on earth to adapt to something that doesn’t make you happy.

That’s why, rather than finding reasons and excuses not to deal with your mental load, look for solutions. There are solutions.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover Symptoms of overwork: 3 signs that can’t be mistaken (with tips)
Discover Stress at work: tips for feeling better at the office

In addition, I recommend this inspiring book on the subject:

The Organized Mind: Thinking Straight in the Age of Information Overload by Daniel J. Levitin

I enjoyed the depiction of the mind and its application to everyday life. Each chapter delves into a different area but connects them simultaneously to help you achieve an organized lifestyle. I highly recommend this book to anyone looking for an explanation for their “busy” and “tiring” lives. It can all be related to our connection with the unlimited information at our disposal today.

Thank you very much for reading this article.

If you liked it, let me know in the comments.

Take care of yourself.