Stress has become a way of life. We are constantly under stress, whether at work or at home. What if we could put an end to it once and for all? I’m sharing with you 3 tips to put an end to stress and find your balance!

1 – From all-or-nothing to balance

We live by the all-or-nothing philosophy. Indeed, when we do something, we have a performance objective. We think: if I do this, failure is not an option.

That’s why we spare no effort… The result: we burn out, and worse, we get sick.

For some, all or nothing is a motivating factor. For others, it’s a source of demotivation, preventing them from getting started.

What if, instead of thinking “all or nothing”, we thought “balance”?

After all, just because we start something, doesn’t mean we have to put all our energy into it? And it has nothing to do with whether we’re ambitious or not.

To put an end to stress, it’s essential to keep our physical, mental, emotional and relational balance.

So, let’s learn to observe ourselves in those moments when we think “it’s all or nothing” to get back into balance.

2 – Allow yourself to be just good enough instead of striving for perfection

In the modern world, perfectionism has become a byword. Yes, today, you have to be perfect, the best of the best.

We have to show everyone how ambitious we are, how much money we make and how much smarter we are than the average person.

And that’s where the stress comes in.

In fact, in the idealized dream life of the modern world, we have to be perfect at everything: having a job that takes up a lot of our time to show everyone how important we are, how involved we are and how much money we make. Having a family, children, pets, not forgetting the big house, the huge garden and the big car. And then you have to have lots of friends, very close friends with whom you spend many wonderful moments. And, last but not least, you need to have a dream body and work out every week.

To put an end to stress, it’s essential to move on from perfectionism, from that idealized but unrealistic dream life, and choose to be “just good enough”.

Indeed, living with balance means making choices.

What’s important to me? Is it to have a job that I enjoy, but that leaves me time for myself? Or is it to have a job in which I earn a lot of money, but am I ready for the sacrifice it requires?

Give yourself the right to be just good enough, not perfect.

3 – To put an end to stress, review your goals

In the idealized dream life of the modern world, in addition to having a great job, a great family and a perfect body, we need to have great goals!

And here again, stress sets in.

Let’s remember that we’re not doing machines, and that being happy isn’t about doing, it’s about being.

In other words, the more restless we are, the more we chase after something, the less happy we feel.

So, to put an end to stress and find your balance, you need to sort out your goals.

Once again, the question to ask yourself is: what’s really important to me?

What do I really want? What am I prepared to do for it, and what am I not prepared to do?

Living with balance isn’t about perfection, it’s about finding the right balance.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover Clear your head: 3 exercises to restore calm
Discover Stop the pressure: 3 mistakes to avoid in order to be calmer

In addition, I recommend this inspiring book on the subject:

The End of Stress: Four Steps to Rewire Your Brain by Don Joseph Goewey

The title of this book had me wondering. And that’s precisely the idea behind it. It’s not about how to cope and so on. After reading it at least 3 times, pen in hand, and applying the “four steps”, I sincerely recommend it. It’s a masterpiece in this field. State-of-the-art. It works. And it’s an insightful and enjoyable read.
The information in this book is practical and divided into small, easy-to-implement steps. The exercises and tools are useful for reducing daily stress and changing your mindset
You’ll want to share copies with your nearest and dearest

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself.