We tend to spread ourselves too thin, force ourselves to do things that stress us out, ask too much of ourselves and take on the problems of others and the world. This exhausts us more and more every day. In fact, we can’t go on like this. That’s why it’s high time we learned how to protect our energy. But how? And where to start? Here are 5 soothing tips.

1 – Focus on yourself

In fact, we focus a lot on others, on what they do, on what they think, and that’s why our energy is depleted.

Because others offend, shock and disappoint us.

What’s more, we spend a lot of time and waste a lot of energy trying to change those others who don’t think like us or do like us.

What if we stopped spreading ourselves too thin? What if we stopped wasting time and energy looking at what others do or don’t do?

Because that’s not why you’re here, to change others.

As you can see, that’s a lot of energy wasted for nothing.

That’s why, to protect your energy, it’s essential to come back to yourself.

That means focusing on yourself, on what you think, what you do or don’t do.

There’s nothing egocentric about this, it’s just vital.

Because you’re not here to judge others and change them, you’re here to live the way that suits you, and that’s not easy enough (laughs).

So stop spreading yourself too thin to protect your energy. Instead, concentrate on yourself. That’s good enough.

2 – Protect yourself to protect your energy

So, sometimes others ask us to focus on them, to help them, support them, even save them.

And, because we’ve learned to please others, not to disappoint them, we force ourselves to do too many things that we don’t like, or worse, that stress us out.

And then we wonder why we don’t have the energy for anything.

Because other people can be thieves of our time and energy, and it’s up to us to learn how to protect ourselves.

That’s why, to protect your energy, it’s time to give yourself the right to preserve yourself.

To do this, learn to say no. Set limits.

After all, you’re not here on earth to force yourself to do things that don’t make you happy, things that devour all your energy, your joie de vivre and your serenity.

This is your life, this is your gift.

Your time here is limited, so don’t waste it forcing yourself to do things.

Instead, use your precious time to do things you enjoy, things that make you smile.

3 – Advise yourself as you would a friend

The problem is how to avoid spreading yourself too thin, forcing yourself to do things and asking too much of yourself?

In fact, how do you find the happy medium between helping others and taking care of yourself?

There’s an exercise I love that has changed my life: talking to myself as if I were a friend.

When you’re in doubt about whether to please or to listen to me, imagine that a friend of yours is in the same situation as you and is asking the same question.

Then, imagine what you would advise this friend, whom you love dearly and wish to be happy in life.

This really is a magical exercise, because it helps us to avoid asking too much of ourselves.

Indeed, we are often far more benevolent and compassionate towards the people we love than we are towards ourselves.

That’s why, to protect our energy, this exercise is just perfect! I wholeheartedly invite you to practice it as often as you need to.

4 – Stop complicating your life to protect your energy

We complicate our lives, that’s a fact.

Because we take on other people’s problems and even the world’s problems.

Indeed, we persist in watching TV and listening to our friend who has been complaining about the same problem for months, even years.

Why make life so complicated for yourself?

To burden yourself so much with everyone else’s problems?

But that doesn’t mean we can’t feel compassion and empathy, and it doesn’t mean we can’t help whenever and however we can.

But it does mean we stop dwelling on each other’s problems, and stop carrying them day after day, hour after hour.

That’s why, to protect your energy, learn to stop dwelling on things.

Personally, when I feel I’ve got too much weight on my shoulders, I remember this phrase: “Smile, you’re not carrying all the world’s problems on your shoulders.”

It reminds me that yes, all is not well, all is not rosy, but it’s not all doom and gloom either.

And, it’s magical because I get my energy back instantly.

5 – Organize your breaks

And, of course, there’s no secret to it. To protect your energy, it’s essential to take breaks.

Time to be alone with yourself.

Not to judge ourselves or to do things we don’t like.

Quite the contrary, in fact. These are times when we dare to follow our joie de vivre.

Do what you like: color, draw, paint, even do nothing.

Just dare to be alone with yourself and dare to taste the joy of living.

Because it’s time to understand that we’re not here on earth to force ourselves.

We’re here to follow what makes us vibrate with joy.

We have the right to do so.

And protecting our energy means understanding that. It also means accepting it.

Unfortunately, this isn’t always easy, since we’ve been told since childhood that life is serious.

And it’s because you take everything so seriously that your energy is depleted.

So invite joy, make room for it. Everywhere, all the time. In your every move, in your every thought, and you’ll be bursting with energy.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover Boosting your morale: 20 positive affirmations for a boost of energy
Discover How to get a buzz: 10 tips to restore your energy levels

I recommend this inspiring book:

The Empath’s Survival Guide by Judith Orloff

Orloff’s book provides advice to help empaths meet the challenges of absorbing and managing the energy of others. It offers practical tools and strategies for protecting one’s energy, setting limits and maintaining emotional well-being in a variety of situations. This book is a valuable resource for those seeking to preserve and enhance their energy in a world full of emotional demands.

If you want to understand why you feel the way you do. Or if you’re feeling lonely, YOU NEED THIS BOOK!

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself