Many of us are fed up with other people, their nastiness, their selfishness, but also their chatter. We’d like to get away from it all, especially everyone. But what do you do when you’ve had enough of other people? How do you find your inner peace? Here are my 3 tips to help you calm down.

1 – Stop listening to others to find inner peace

We’re fed up with other people, because we make too much room for them in our lives. All we do is listen to them, whether it’s gossip or remarks. So why do we listen to them so much?

It’s because we have great difficulty in cutting ourselves off from the company of others. On the one hand, because we’ve learned that people who withdraw are oddballs, and therefore excluded from the group. And secondly, because we don’t like to be alone, we don’t like silence.

In fact, the problem isn’t so much the others. The problem is that we can’t stop listening to others, wanting to be in their company, even when we’re dreaming of going off to live on a desert island.

So how do we find inner peace? To do so, we need to gradually detach ourselves from the company of others. Not to run away from them, but to move towards silence.

Finally, I’ve noticed that when we’re fed up with other people, it’s often a sign that we need to spend some quality time with ourselves. So, it’s not the others that are the problem, it’s simply that you need to satisfy your need for solitude. A healthy, even vital need!

In fact, understand that you have the right to spend time with yourself, you need it, so don’t wait until you’re fed up with other people before seeking to satisfy it. What do you think?

2 – Refocus on yourself and take care of yourself when you’re fed up with others

Even when we don’t listen to others and their bad moods or nastiness, they’re still there in our thoughts. All too often, we wonder what they think of us.

Because, more or less consciously, we want to please others. In fact, we want them to like us, so we listen to them and try to match their expectations.

And that’s what exhausts us, not the others, but all the questions we ask ourselves about them: how can they love me more or better? In the end, it’s our constant focus on others that exhausts us, and we’re sick of it! So how can we find inner peace?

To do so, we need to refocus our attention on ourselves: how am I doing? How do I feel? What do I need or want right now? What do I like to do, or what would I like to do lately?

Because being fed up with other people is a sign that it’s time to take a little more care of yourself. In other words, ask questions about yourself, do things for yourself. Forget about other people! So stop wasting your time trying to guess what they’re thinking, what they want. And take a break and come back to yourself. It’ll do you a world of good. So, what are you waiting for?

Fed up with other people: My 4 tips for finding inner peace

3 – Bring joy back into your life when you’re fed up with other people

When other people’s actions start to take on too much importance in our lives, i.e. when we start jumping up and down because so-and-so said this or did that, then that’s a very strong sign. It’s a sign that it’s time to look for joy within ourselves, rather than in others.

Indeed, you may not realize it, but you may be expecting too much from others, and that’s what’s wearing you down. Leave the others where they are. And you, take care of yourself and your joy.

I’m telling you this because I’ve noticed that whenever I’m fed up with others, it’s because my attention has slipped too far towards them, and it’s time for me to find a healthier balance. Because I’m responsible for the joy in my life, it’s not other people who are responsible for it. They can be a source of it, and sometimes an obstacle. But they’re not responsible for it. Can you see the difference?

So, when you’re fed up with other people, understand that it’s also a sign for you to take things in hand and rediscover the joy of living. To do this, do things you enjoy. Contemplate your life and re-experience your daily routine.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover Handling conflict with compassion and understanding: My 5 tips
Discover Living in peace with others: 8 keys to harmonious relationships

In addition, I recommend this inspiring books on the subject:

The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate by Harriet Lerner
The book is tailored to assist readers in developing better communication skills, building better relationships and approaching difficult conversations with more trust and greater empathy. This book can provide vital insight and support to further improve your communication and relationships.
Lots of good advice and stories that resonate. I’m sure I’ll keep learning and trying to stay in touch with the people I love and learn to say goodbye too….

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself.