Boredom can set in and gradually suffocate a couple. So what can you do to avoid boredom in your relationship? How can you bring joy and love back into your relationship? Here are 4 magic tips!

1 – Having joint projects, the secret to not getting bored as a couple

Having joint projects can bring more joy and love to your relationship. But what is a joint project?

A joint project can be as simple as planning a weekend away or a vacation.

It could be doing something around the house: painting, DIY, furnishing…

In fact, the aim of joint projects is to renew the dialogue and get us looking in the same direction again.

Because, all too often, we go too fast in our lives and make a lot of decisions on our own, without really involving the other.

In other words, we’re all moving forward, but not necessarily in the same direction.

And yet, the couple needs to feel that they’re moving forward, and moving forward together.

Because having a direction, no matter how simple, brings them closer together and makes them feel more united.

That’s why, to avoid getting bored as a couple, it’s time to follow a common project. Any project, as long as it appeals to both parties.

2 – Have your own projects

A couple is the association of two people. In other words, a couple is two heads, two hearts, two distinct people.

In fact, sometimes you might think that a couple becomes a single entity. But that’s not true! There are two distinct entities.

In other words, it’s essential for each person to look after themselves, their happiness and their well-being.

Unfortunately, when we’re in a relationship, we tend to forget ourselves for the sake of the relationship.

As a result, we have far too many expectations of our relationship.

Yes, when we’re feeling down, instead of looking inside ourselves to see what’s going on and how to remedy it, we project our low morale onto the couple, i.e. blame them for our current malaise.

That’s why, when you’re bored in your relationship, it’s essential to first check that you’re not bored in your personal life.

To do this, I wholeheartedly invite you to check whether you have any personal projects at the moment. What are your goals at the moment? Are there things that are close to your heart? Do you have any passions? What are you doing to feed your zest for life?

In other words, to avoid boredom in your relationship, it’s essential to avoid boredom in your own life.

3 – Make weekly appointments

To avoid boredom in your relationship, it’s a good idea to establish a routine. Which may sound strange when you think of boredom (laughs).

Indeed, routine is often synonymous with boredom. Which is absolutely false.

In fact, to bring more joy and love into your relationship, it’s essential to spend quality time together!

And for that, we need a special moment.

That’s why I wholeheartedly invite you to set up a weekly rendezvous. Yes, agree on a fixed day: every Monday evening or Thursday evening, for example.

This date doesn’t have to take place in a 4-star restaurant; it could very well be a television evening, a cinema outing, a drink on the terrace, a walk…

In fact, as well as being a privileged moment, this get-together is also a good way of chatting throughout the week: “So, what do you feel like doing on Monday evening? Is there a movie you’d like to see?”

Because, all too often, boredom sets in, because we don’t communicate about anything at all. This little weekly get-together is a good way to get the conversation going again.

4 – Slowing down and avoiding boredom as a couple

Today, if we’re so bored as a couple, it’s because we’re going too fast.

That’s why, if you don’t want to get bored as a couple, it’s time to slow down. But what’s slowing down?

To slow down is to stop running around, to stop forcing yourself to do too many things in a single day.

Slow down!

In fact, it’s quite possible that your relationship takes second place to many other things in your day-to-day life, and you don’t even realize it.

Then again, there are two of us in a couple, so it’s also quite possible that this is the case for your partner.

Now it’s time to stop imposing this crazy rhythm on yourself and return to something gentler, lighter.

To do this, simplify your days and evenings.

In addition, reduce your screen time, so you’ll be more available to talk or do things as a couple.

In other words, put your relationship back at the center of your priorities! That’s also the secret to avoiding boredom in your relationship.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover How to keep the flame alive in your relationship: 7 tips to follow
Discover Getting off to a good start in a relationship: 6 tips to adopt

In addition, I recommend this inspiring book on the subject:

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John Gottman
This book provides a meaningful conversation guide for couples, offering opportunities to further deepen your connection and understanding of each other.
To be recommended to anyone currently dating with the ultimate goal of a lasting partnership or relationship. This book gives actionable advice on how best to communicate, learn and love each other. It is practical and reads at a pleasant pace. I think it will be useful in the lives of most people who are dating. Give it a try.

Thank you so much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself.