Jealousy is a poison for relationships. But it often gets out of hand and we don’t know what to do about it? So how can we stop being jealous in love? Where do you start? Here are 3 powerful tips for calming your relationship.

1 – Discover the sources of your jealousy

We don’t choose to be jealous. In fact, jealousy is an emotion that bubbles up inside us, and we often don’t know what to do with it.

The problem is that we let jealousy dictate our thoughts and actions. And that’s when we can talk about morbid jealousy. It becomes automatic, second nature.

In fact, our whole life revolves around it, and it completely ruins our life as a couple.

That’s why it’s time to get to the root of your jealousy. To do this, you need to take some time to analyze your jealousy.

Why do you feel jealous in this situation? Why don’t you feel another emotion, like joy, for example?

Then analyze the situation. What is it about this situation that makes you jealous?

I invite you to look back at past situations in which you’ve experienced jealousy. Analyze the situation. What happened? What were you thinking at the time? What scared and/or angered you?

Write it all down. Let a few days go by and read it again. Try to understand the sources of your jealousy.

Because when you understand the mechanisms behind your jealousy, what makes it happen, you’ll be able to put in place real solutions to free yourself from your tendency to be jealous.

2 – Talk about it with your partner

Morbid jealousy is a real poison for relationships. That’s why it’s essential to talk about it with your partner.

Let him or her know that you’re aware that you’re jealous, and that you want to change that.

Together, analyze the situations that trigger your jealousy. Try to find solutions together.

Talk it over. It’s really important.

Because, all too often, jealousy remains a taboo in a couple and this only accentuates the phenomenon until one day it’s the crisis of too many.

So don’t wait until it’s too late. Talk about it.

3 – Work on your self-esteem to stop being jealous in love

Good self-esteem is essential for happiness in love and in life in general.

Self-esteem is the opinion we have of ourselves. In other words, when we have good self-esteem, we have the intimate belief that we are a good person, someone worthy of love and capable of achieving things.

The problem is, we haven’t really learned to work on our self-esteem. In fact, we only have to look at how much time we spend criticizing and devaluing ourselves.

So, if you’re jealous, jealous in love, it’s possible that you have low self-esteem. And it’s time for that to change!

To do so, I wholeheartedly invite you to put in place a few exercises to boost your self-esteem: give yourself 3 compliments every day in front of the mirror, congratulate yourself on 3 little things you’ve done during the day.

In addition, take up a sport like yoga and practice meditation to have a better relationship with your body and with yourself.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover The 50 most beautiful quotes about love to share without moderation
Discover Happy in love: 3 mistakes that make us suffer

In addition, I recommend this inspiring book on the subject:

The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton
This is a moving narrative about love, compromise and the impact of societal norms on the pursuit of happiness.
Set in New York’s Gilded Age, this story delves into the societal constraints and expectations that can lead to feelings of jealousy and unsatisfied desires.
Beautifully written. The language and phrasing are a delight.

Thank you so much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself.