Do you put up with people around you even though they stress you out more and more every day? We’ve learned to put up with others, to take it all in our stride, but at some point, enough is enough. So how do you find the strength and courage to say stop, enough is enough? This article will help you stop putting up with other people when it’s no longer bearable for you.

1 – Stop putting up with other people’s moods

There are people around us who take up far too much space in our own lives. People whose moods we pay attention to, people we must never offend or contradict.

Their presence weighs on us, but we put up with it as best we can.

The problem is when this presence is repeated far too often. Because, after a while, the heaviness becomes a permanent stress.

And even though we feel this stress, even though we know it’s not normal and can’t go on any longer, we continue to put up with these people’s moods.

Why do we do this? Because we’ve been taught to be too nice and not to disappoint others.

That’s why we put up with people who are simply toxic for us, too often and for too long.

So what can we do about it?

If you’re reading this article, you know what you have to do: distance yourself. But you don’t dare.

In fact, you don’t dare disappoint others.

But the question to ask yourself now is, how long are you going to do this to yourself? How long are you going to forbid yourself from disappointing so-and-so, while disappointing yourself a little more every day?

Because when you say “yes” to those others who weigh you down and stress you out, you’re saying “no” to yourself.

Now, take a deep breath and do what you have to do to stop putting up with the unbearable.

In fact, to stop putting up with others is to learn to choose yourself.

2 – Other people’s opinions

You probably have people around you who give you their opinion on anything and everything. Even when you’re talking about something personal and close to your heart, these people cut you off and say “If I were you, I’d…”.

Once, twice, it’s okay. But at some point, enough is enough, isn’t it?

In fact, it’s all about listening to yourself.

Because we’ve learned to be nice, and that’s not a bad thing in itself. Quite the contrary, in fact.

In fact, we’re not here to judge and condemn others at the slightest mistake, or as soon as their behavior doesn’t suit us.

We’re not here on Earth to go on fighting and drama after drama.

That’s why it’s all about listening to each other.

Putting up with other people is all well and good, but enough is enough. Can you see the difference?

In fact, when it becomes too unbearable, distance yourself, find an excuse, but go somewhere else. Take a breather, breathe, refocus, take care of yourself.

What I want to tell you is that if at any time you feel bad in a conversation, in a relationship, it’s because you really feel bad. So give yourself permission to get out of it!

To stop putting up with others is to listen to your own discomfort.

3 – Stop putting up with others and their unhappiness

Do you have people around you who spend a lot of time explaining why they’re unhappy and why they always will be?

Do you spend a lot of energy trying to comfort and reassure these people? To the point where it stresses you out, to the point where you’re consumed by worry?

Then it’s time you realized something fundamental:

Other people are responsible for their happiness, and you’re responsible for your own.

In fact, other people are not responsible for your happiness, and you are not responsible for other people’s happiness.

That’s just the way it is.

Whatever you’ve learned in the past, whatever messages people send you today: you’re not responsible for other people’s happiness.

So, if you want to stop putting up with others who can’t manage to be happy and who like to tell you all about it, distance yourself from them too.

Don’t stay in this toxic situation, both for yourself and for the other person.

Indeed, feeling unhappy is very difficult to live with. That’s why people need to talk about it, but at some point, if you’re not a professional and they’re not your patients, stop listening to them and advising them.

Tell them to talk to a professional and worry about your own happiness!

I know it’s not easy, but it’s necessary. You can’t save others, and you don’t have to.

So breathe, and when it’s really unbearable, distance yourself. Refocus on yourself and your happiness.

4 – Other people’s stress

Are there people around you who are stressed, but really stressed? The ones who are afraid of everything, all the time? The ones who imagine horrible futures and spend a lot of time telling you everything they imagine?

Does the stress of these people increase your own stress?

Then it’s time for you to stop putting up with other people. Yes, it’s time to come back to yourself and let others find real solutions to better manage their stress.

Because, of course, reassuring and encouraging them is good for them and for you too. Yes, it feels good to help others.

But when it becomes too stressful for you, it’s no longer a matter of putting up with it, but of distancing yourself from it.

You know, other people won’t change overnight, and they won’t change because of you or for you.

In other words, the problem isn’t the others, it’s you. It’s you who continues to put up with the unbearable. It’s you who won’t allow yourself to step back and take care of yourself.

In fact, don’t wait for other people’s permission to come back to you, to take care of your happiness, because they’ll never give it to you.

That’s why it’s time for you to set limits, respect yourself and become YOUR priority in YOUR life.

How do you stop putting up with other people when you can’t take it anymore? 7 tips

Think about yourself. Instead of thinking about others and what they think and feel, ask yourself what you think and feel.
Satisfy your own needs. Instead of asking yourself what others need, ask yourself what you need.
Stop adapting to others. Stop adapting to other people’s characters and moods. Just be you! Whether you like it or not.
Listen to your stress. If you’re stressed, it’s because the relationship or situation is no longer bearable for you. Accept it and do what you have to do: listen to yourself and choose yourself!
Repeat to yourself as many times as necessary: “I’m not responsible for other people’s happiness.” Go further with: “I have the right to be happy, happy, even if others are not.”
Remember that thinking about yourself, taking care of yourself, stopping putting u

p with others you can’t stand anymore won’t make you a selfish person, it’ll make you a happy person. It’s necessary, vital!
Finally, remember: you’re here to be YOUR priority in YOUR life.

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I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover The 10 signs of a toxic relationship: a guide to recognizing them
Discover Fed up with other people: My 3 tips for finding inner peace

I recommend this inspiring book on the subject:

Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day by Anne Katherine
This book features guidelines for recognizing when boundaries are crossed, and provides a range of tools for setting and maintaining healthy limits in different situations.
If we define our own boundaries, we must also be able to see those of others in order to be clear and be able to create the relationships we want. This is just one example of what I’ve learned from this book. It’s a book that speaks with clarity about this really important struggle in many of our lives. I highly recommend it!

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself.