It’s not always easy to be yourself, especially in this world where we’re always being pushed to conform to others. In other words, to be like everyone else and do what everyone else does. And yet, we feel it: we’re suffocating. That’s why here are 8 permissions that it’s time to grant ourselves, so we can finally dare to be ourselves.

1 – To dare to be yourself is to dare to love

In fact, love makes us blush; we hesitate to say certain words, to offer them to others. For fear of being wrong, and of being wronged too.

Yet to hold back the love we feel is to prevent ourselves from experiencing what makes us tick. It’s preventing us from being ourselves.

That’s why don’t be afraid to love.

On the contrary, the love you feel is the most beautiful expression of yourself. It’s you at your most beautiful.

In other words, stop limiting yourself through fear and love with all your heart.

2 – Dare to trust yourself

We prevent ourselves from being ourselves, because we don’t believe in ourselves. We don’t believe we’re capable.

Yet it’s normal to doubt ourselves, to be afraid of doing things for the first time. It’s perfectly normal!

And, just because you’re afraid doesn’t mean you can’t do it. So stop always doubting your self-confidence.

You’re just scared, and that’s normal.

That’s why daring to be yourself means daring to face your fears. Because behind your fears lie your dreams. And your dreams are who you are! They’re who you are!

So dare to trust yourself.

3 – Dare to assert yourself to dare to be yourself

Daring to be yourself means saying loud and clear what you want, what you think and feel.

But we’re afraid to say it, afraid of others and their reactions.

What’s more, we’ve been led to believe that it’s up to others to guess what’s going on in our heads, just as we ourselves have to guess what others are thinking, what would please them.

But how exhausting!

That’s why you need to dare to communicate, to dare to express your needs, desires and thoughts. In other words, you have to dare to assert yourself!

Asserting yourself doesn’t mean imposing or defending yourself.

Asserting yourself means expressing what’s inside you, who you are.

It’s your right. So give yourself that right.

Don’t let anyone think for you or want for you. Question yourself and follow your voice.

4 – Dare to make mistakes

In today’s society, the myth of perfection has taken hold.

Indeed, we might believe that we have to be perfect, all the time, in everything. Otherwise, all we have to do is shut up, refrain from doing things, and we no longer dare to be ourselves.

But we have the right to make mistakes, to say stupid things, to wallow miserably. That doesn’t make us worthless, it makes us human.

All humans make mistakes, so why shouldn’t you?

Do you think you’re so important that if you make a mistake, the Earth will stop turning? (laughs)

So give yourself permission to make mistakes, today and for all the days to come.

Be yourself! Even in your mistakes.

5 – Dare to disturb

Don’t make noise, don’t ask too many questions, don’t disturb others.

We’ve been brought up to be extremely polite, serious, hard-working, to fall in line, not to make waves.

That’s why we’re afraid of disturbing others and don’t even dare to be ourselves.

In fact, we spend our days pretending that everything’s fine, that we don’t have any questions, that we agree, when it’s not true.

In other words, daring to be yourself means daring to disturb others!

Because yes, you’re going to disturb others by doing what you like, by saying what you think. You’re going to upset them because you’re different.

But we’re all different. But we pretend we’re not.

So, dare to be you. You’re so beautiful when you’re you, only you.

6 – Dare to risk disappointment in order to be yourself

Our nearest and dearest would like us to be like them or to do better than them in life. They have all kinds of plans for us.

They’d like us to have qualities we don’t always have, and they’d like us to have none of the faults we too often have (laughs).

Your loved ones want lots of things for you, but they never really ask your opinion.

But what do you want? Because that’s the only question you need to ask yourself.

That’s why, to dare to be yourself, you have to dare to take the risk of disappointing those closest to you.

7 – Dare to laugh and cry to be yourself

It’s not always easy to live our emotions, especially in this world where emotions are a nuisance.

Laughing too loudly and crying make other people uncomfortable.

And yet, these emotions are the outpourings of our soul, so why hide or contain them?

That’s why I wholeheartedly invite you to let your laughter contaminate the world with joy.

And to allow yourself to cry to heal your wounds.

Indeed, daring to be yourself is to stop smiling when you feel like crying. It means ceasing to be serious when we feel like laughing.

In other words, stop pretending and dare to be you!

8 – Dare to love, to love with all your heart

I’ll say it again, because it’s really the most important thing: Love, love with all your heart.

Yes, never stop loving who you are, what you do, where you are and the people around you.

Love relentlessly, love without limits!

That’s what you’re here for, and nothing else.

That’s why you have to take all the seriousness out of your life, all those conditions you put on yourself to be someone respectable and respected. It’s not the most important thing.

Only love matters.

In fact, you don’t need anything other than to be yourself to be loved by the people destined to love you.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

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Discover Be different: 4 steps to daring to be yourself

I recommend this inspiring book:

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
The author inspires us to embrace our creativity and follow our passions, emphasizing the importance of being true to ourselves in the pursuit of a fulfilling life.
This book can help you see your creativity in a different light. It can give you the courage to discover what you’re really capable of.
And, in my case, it can even free you from your fears. In particular, the fear of not being good enough. Of not being original enough, of not being productive enough.
I really enjoyed this book. That’s why I recommend it!

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself