It’s hard to make the right choice when fear gets in the way, when doubts get too heavy. How do you know if it’s the right decision or not? And finally, how do you dare to choose? Here are 4 tips to stop listening to fear and choose hope.

1 – Why making the right choice is so scary

Making the right choice is scary, and that’s normal.

We’ve learned to be afraid of the unknown, and even worse, afraid of making a mistake.

What if we make the wrong choice? What if we ruined our whole life?

That’s why choosing is so scary, and why we avoid it at all costs.

In other words, we stay in our comfort zone, in what we do all the time.

Even if our present doesn’t suit us.

Let’s take work as an example: even if our job isn’t as great as we’d like it to be, or even if our job isn’t pleasant at all: either because the atmosphere is bad, because the pressure is too great, or because it’s boring, we’d rather stay there than have to make another choice.

In fact, we prefer to adapt to what doesn’t suit us, and let’s be honest: we prefer to adapt to what doesn’t make us happy so we don’t have to make choices.

Because it’s too heavy a burden and too many consequences to bear.

And yet, making the right choice is the only way to build a life that we truly enjoy and in which we are fully happy.

And making the right choice can be learned!

2 – What does it mean to make the right choice?

But what does making the right choice really mean?

To make the right choice is to move towards happiness and joy.

It means taking risks, it means not always being certain that everything will go well, but it means being certain that if everything does go well, then yes, we’ll be happier, more joyful.

In other words, to make the right choice is to take a leap of faith.

It’s stepping into the unknown with the goal of being happier.

And, that’s why we’re alive, and only for that: to be happy.

So, to make the right choice is to stop making your choice thanks to an Excel table or endless lists of pros and cons.

Making the right choice means listening to your heart instead of your fears.

3 – How not to listen to fear and choose hope

But how do you make the right choice? How do you stop listening to your fears and listen to your heart?

You have to choose the hope of a better life. No more, no less.

And that requires courage, it requires taking the plunge and, above all, believing in it.

To believe that everything will turn out all right.

And to believe that we deserve to be happy in this life, in this world.

In fact, we’ve learned to be afraid, because we’ve been made to doubt ourselves and our ability to succeed, and we’ve been made to doubt the world by being told that it’s dangerous and gloomy.

Yes, we were told: “In life, be content with what happens to you and nothing more. Don’t ask for too much.”

But life isn’t about adapting to what doesn’t make you happy.

Nor am I saying that life is always rosy. Life is full of ups and downs and surprises that aren’t always pleasant.

But, for all that, we’re not here to live according to our fears, but thanks to our hopes and dreams.

That’s why, to make the right choice, I invite you to listen to your heart, which says: “Let’s give it a try, let’s try the adventure.

And stop listening to your mind, which tells you: “It’s too dangerous. It’ll never work. Besides, you don’t deserve it.”

You know, in this life, you can’t control much, but you can control one thing: your choices.

So make the right choices, the ones that lead you to greater joy and happiness, the ones that push you to follow your hopes and dreams rather than your fears.

Your happiness awaits you and the choices you make.

You’re capable of it, and you deserve it.

4 – A simple question to ask yourself to make the right choice

But, in practical terms, how do you make the right choice?

Because saying you should follow your hopes and dreams is all well and good, but how do you do it?

For that, I wholeheartedly invite you to settle down in a quiet place or in nature.

Take 10 deep breaths. Calm your breath.

Then close your eyes.

Think about the choices before you and ask yourself this question for each possible choice:

“Will this choice make me happier?”

Don’t try to justify this choice. In fact, don’t let your thoughts lead you by the nose.

In fact, don’t think.

Just let a “yes” or “no” come to you. Your heart will speak to you.

So be silent and listen to your heart.

I hope from the bottom of my heart that this question helps you, just as it helps me day after day to make the right choices.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover Assuming your choices: 5 tips to stop being afraid of being yourself
Discover How to build confidence fast: 5 powerful steps

I recommend this inspiring book:

Neverwhere by Neil Gaiman
The author’s urban fantasy embarks on a journey through London’s dark and magical underground world.
An engaging story full of betrayal, danger and unexpected friendships. The allure of a London underworld filled with lost people. Richard Mathew finds himself drawn, against his will, into this London, and the question is not only whether he can survive, but whether he can be a hero.
Great book!

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Take care of yourself