Because living your dream life can be scary. It means stepping out of our comfort zone, testing, risking and daring. It’s not always easy to set out to conquer our dream. That’s why I’m sharing with you 10 powerful tips for changing your life.

1 – Living your dream life: writing your list of goals

What were the things we valued as children? What inspired us? What was synonymous with a meaningful, successful life?

Because it’s our childhood heart that guides us towards our dream life.

As adults, we’re all too tempted by the dream life dictated by society: millions of euros, a yacht, a palace…

This is not your dream life, but an idealized one.

What’s your dream life? A life…

that’s just like you
Tailor-made
Meaningful to you
In which you feel happy and at peace
To live this life, you must first define in concrete terms what you want from it.

What would you do in your ideal life? What would be your job, your passions?
Where would you be?
Who would you be with?
How would you feel?
Once you’ve “visualized” your dream life, you can make a list of our life goals.

So, maybe you’re lacking inspiration in front of your sheet of paper…

I invite you to answer these 2 questions to open the floodgates of your inspiration and creativity:

What are the 100 things you’d like to do before you die?
What would you do if you had a year to live?
Take all the time you need to write down your goals, even several days.

2 – Give yourself a deadline

How can you live your dream life? Leave yourself no choice! In other words, set a deadline: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, 5 years… to achieve your goals!

Indeed, without a deadline, we tend to give in to the sweet song of procrastination, always putting things off until tomorrow.

Choose one of your life goals and give it a deadline: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years?

Remember, as long as your goals don’t have a deadline, you won’t move forward.

So go for it!

3 – Live your dream life: prepare a big reward

Another tip for living your dream life: plan a big reward.

In the book, Brett, the main character, would normally inherit millions of dollars, once his list of goals had been achieved. Not so for us… (laughs)

That said, there’s nothing to stop us thinking about a nice reward:

a wonderful trip
a nice dinner in a good restaurant
a course in a discipline that appeals to us
a meditation retreat
a week at home doing nothing
In the end, the greatest reward of all will be to build our dream life. Won’t we?

I invite you to give yourself a reward for EACH goal you reach, and even think about smaller rewards for the intermediate steps.

Because rewards are a great motivator!

4 – Surround yourself with trusted friends

This advice is invaluable if you want to live the life of your dreams.

Indeed, setting out to achieve our goals will lead us to experience unpleasant, even difficult emotions and situations. That’s why it’s invaluable to be able to rely on people you can trust.

Who are the people you can trust to help you through a slump?

With whom do you think you can express your desire to achieve a particular goal?

Avoid negative people, and surround yourself with positive ones.

5 – Live your dream life: face your fear

To live your dream life, you need to face up to your fears.

Why? Because it’s the things we fear that are most important. Because it’s the things we fear that are the most important. After all, our dreams lie outside our comfort zone.

That’s why fear will creep up on us, but we’ll emerge either transcended by joy, or with a lesson to learn.

“Push yourself to do the things that scare you. Take risks and see where they take you, because they make life worth living.

To inspire you to face your fear, I’ll tell you what’s going on for Brett. One of her goals is to perform on a big stage. She opted to do a short 7-minute one-man-show on an open stage. And… it didn’t go well. She was booed… but she did it! And that’s the most important thing.

What is the lesson she learned from this “failure”? That the more life goes on, the more we get caught up in the lie that we have to be perfect.

In life, you don’t have to be perfect, you have to be bold, happy and passionate. When we’re scared, we need to be brave, because nothing beats the feeling of being alive, even if it creates fear and anxiety.

“Make sure you succeed! But how? By being the brave little girl you used to be. You call your mother a coward, but you’re no better. You want to achieve these goals, I know you do. But you’re too scared to take a chance. Go make your dreams come true. Do it now! Now!”

6 – Don’t torment yourself with what-ifs

Undertaking to live your dream life will require you to make choices and decisions.

Obviously, when we make a choice, there are at least two possible scenarios, and once we’ve made our choice, we say no to one of those 2 scenarios.

Let’s not waste our time thinking “what if”.

When we make a decision, let’s take the one that most moves our heart and concentrate on it.

Let’s remove “what if” from our vocabulary, because it only leads to regret and suffering.

7 – Bring tissues and a pen

Realizing your dream life will bring its share of tears and laughter.

Indeed, in achieving our goals, we’re going to close the door on certain things, we’re going to have to close certain chapters in our lives. It’s going to hurt.

That’s why a few tissues will be indispensable.

And some other goals will open other doors, other encounters, other experiences, and joy will enter our lives.

Let’s have a good laugh, and write it all down in a nice notebook, so we can remember it on teary days.

8 – Live your dream life: don’t hesitate to run

We’ll need to run after certain things, certain people to live our dream life. Let’s not hesitate for a moment. Let’s take risks and run.

“Life is short. Never waste time. Run towards what makes your heart beat.”

9 – Live your dream life: listen to your heart

How do we know if what we’re doing is part of our dream life?

Just listen to your heart. Is it beating stronger, faster? Then what we’re doing is right for us.

If there’s anxiety, then we need to make the right decisions.

The purpose of our life is to have a joyful beating heart.

10 – Be patient

Sometimes things just don’t work out the way we want them to, and we torture ourselves because of it. Let’s stop!

When things don’t go as planned, let’s accept them and move on.

Forcing fate is no way to live your dream life. Things simply happen when they happen.

Let’s learn to develop stocks of good humor, joy, sincere and solid friendships for rainy days, and let’s be patient.

“Tomorrow is another day” is the title of the book, and it says it all.

When our day doesn’t go as planned, let’s say “Tomorrow is another day”.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover Change your negative thoughts: 6 positive habits
Discover Never give up on your dreams!: 12 tips for making them come true

I recommend this inspiring book:

The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure by Grant Cardone
Grant Cardone’s book is a blueprint for living the life of your dreams. The 10X Rule encourages individuals to set goals ten times higher than they initially imagine, and then take massive action to achieve them. Cardone emphasizes the importance of extraordinary effort and unwavering commitment to one’s goals. This book urges us to break free from conventional wisdom, redefine success on our own terms and create a life beyond our wildest dreams through relentless dedication and action.

Apply this process to anything and everything. It doesn’t have to be just about business or money. A wealth of information to absorb and make sense of. Easy to read and easy to implement. Be open-minded, because your mind follows what you think. If you think it won’t work, it won’t work. If you think it will, it will if you put your mind to it.

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself