It’s not always easy to make a fresh start. Because we’re not surrounded by the right people, or because we’re too negative and pessimistic. So how can we keep smiling and motivated at this key moment in our lives? Here are 4 motivating tips to keep you on track when you want to change your life.

1 – Listen to yourself to make a fresh start

Making a new start means being at a crossroads in your life, so it’s a key moment that’s not always easy to live through.

Because we’re full of doubts and we’re afraid, and that’s normal.

So how do we go about it?

I wholeheartedly invite you to listen to yourself. Because when we’re in doubt, we tend to look for ready-made methods or copy from others.

The problem is that what works for others won’t necessarily work for you.

In fact, all too often, when we make a fresh start, sooner or later we end up making choices that aren’t our own.

Because fear is too strong, or social or family pressure is too strong.

So make sure you listen to yourself.

What do you want or need? What makes you dream or vibrate? What kind of life do you want to live from now on?

Listening to yourself means allowing yourself to nurture new needs and desires.

Even if it’s not clear at first – and it probably won’t be – take the time. Listen to yourself day after day, until you discover what you really want to live in this life that belongs to you alone.

2 – Stop listening to other people’s opinions and comparing yourself to others

Making a fresh start is going to get the people around you talking. There will be the good people who will encourage you, and then there will be the others. Those who will worry about you and even those who will take it upon themselves to stop you dreaming and believing.

That’s why it’s essential that you don’t listen to other people’s opinions. Even those who seem to know you.

In fact, understand that you’re changing – in other words, it’s only your opinion that counts.

What’s more, understand that you have the right to change, that you’re alive to change. So be careful not to listen to people who say they’re “surprised” and maybe even “shocked” by your new start. It’s not their life, so carry on!

Finally, be careful not to compare yourself with others.

Because making a new start sometimes means having to start from scratch, and sometimes even take a few steps backwards.

Indeed, you may lose a certain level of salary, and you may even have to move back in with Mum and Dad. In other words, it’s a pretty tough time to go through, because the fear of judgment crushes us.

It’s time to take a deep breath and stop comparing yourself to others, to those who seem to have more or to be better in their lives.

In fact, live your life in your own way and at your own pace. Stop doing what everyone else is doing.

In fact, you may be where you are today, because for too long you’ve been doing what everyone else is doing. Don’t make that mistake again.

3 – Keep your spirits up to stay on course

It’s normal to feel down when you’re making a new start. In fact, it’s normal to go through all sorts of states: one moment you’re enthusiastic and optimistic, the next you’re doubtful, anxious and depressed.

It’s perfectly normal. Because it’s an uncomfortable moment, our emotions are intense and moody. (laughs)

That’s why I wholeheartedly invite you to keep your spirits high.

To do this, when you feel you’re thinking too much, worrying too much, let go of the questions you’re asking yourself to do something else, something that relaxes you or gives you pleasure.

In fact, understand that making a new start is a joyful experience, not one of pain and discomfort.

It’s because you’re going to radiate joy that you’ll be able to make the best decisions, so stop worrying and allow yourself joy and even lightness.

In fact, I’ve noticed that the best decisions I’ve made in my life were the ones that made me feel the most joy.

In fact, for a long time, I made decisions with fear in my stomach, and those decisions were very often wrong.

So joy is our best guide. That’s why you need to keep your spirits up and your joy high during this period of change.

4 – Confidence when starting afresh

In fact, when you’re making a new start, you need to have confidence. Confidence in yourself, but also, and above all, in life.

Indeed, if you’ve arrived at this new beginning, it’s for a good reason. It’s because it’s the best thing you could have done and had to do. So have faith.

It’s all going to work out.

In fact, it’s because you’re holding on to what’s over and dreading what’s coming to you that this new beginning is causing you to feel so many negative emotions.

So understand that you don’t have to protect yourself from the future, but rather welcome it as best you can.

So, do what you have to do today to make your future as beautiful as possible, be courageous, persevere.

But accept that you can’t control everything, and have faith in yourself.

This last piece of advice is my favorite, it’s the one that helps me to relax and believe with all my might when I’m about to make a change in my life or start afresh.

What’s your favorite piece of advice?

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover How to live your dream life: my 10 powerful tips
Discover Leaving everything behind to change your life: 7 questions to ask yourself beforehand

I recommend this inspiring book:

Me Before You by Jojo Moyes
Louisa Clark agrees to care for a quadriplegic man, Will Traynor. As their lives intertwine, they both discover a new perspective on love, life and the possibility of a new beginning.
This book is captivating, funny and sad all at once. It’s not your typical love story, but I loved reading it. The main character, Louisa Clark, is quick-witted and emotional. It’s a good book to read when you have a bit of spare time and want a story that falls somewhere between heavy and light. Warning: This book will make some people cry. I didn’t cry, but it’s a bit heartbreaking, so I understand. Still, I’d classify it as a good read!

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself