Surpassing yourself is the way to live your best life. Indeed, going beyond our limits means overcoming boredom and stagnation. Yet we don’t always dare break out of our routine. In fact, we’re afraid of changing things in our lives. So here are 6 tips and a meditation to help you surpass yourself with confidence and serenity.

1 – Understand why it is important to want to surpass yourself

Why do we want to surpass ourselves? Why not just do what we do all the time and stay in our comfort zone? Isn’t that more comfortable, easier and more pleasant to live with?

In fact, wanting to surpass ourselves is sometimes uncomfortable, difficult and not always pleasant. Because we have doubts, because we may lack self-confidence.

And that’s normal.

Yes, it’s normal to be afraid of surpassing ourselves, afraid of doing new things, of exploring and discovering. Fear of even becoming better.

And yet, it’s essential. Life never stops teaching us, never stops confronting us with obstacles and asking us to overcome them one by one.

That’s why, even if you don’t want to push yourself, even if you want to stay in your comfort zone, life itself will come and push you to grow, to learn, to change. All the time! Have you ever noticed it?

So, rather than waiting for life to surprise you, take matters into your own hands and decide to surpass yourself regularly, with serenity and confidence.

2 – Surpassing yourself at work

Work is a very important part of our lives. It’s where we spend most of our time. What’s more, it’s a field in which we can really blossom and put all our strengths at the service of others.

That’s why it’s essential to excel at work.

So how do you go about it, with confidence and serenity?

For that, I wholeheartedly invite you to ask yourself a few questions:

How do I feel about my work? Do I feel I’m doing my best? What do I need to learn to move forward?

In fact, give yourself permission to make your work evolve, to grow through your work.

Even if it’s not what we’ve learned to do. Indeed, we’ve learned to dread the world of work, to believe that there isn’t enough to go around, or to believe that we’re not supposed to be happy at work…

That’s why you need to change the way you look at your work and give yourself permission to excel.

3 – Surpass yourself as a couple

After a while, the flame of passion fades, and that’s normal.

In fact, surpassing yourself as a couple doesn’t necessarily mean burning with passion, but rather stopping taking the other person for granted.

Indeed, very often, when routine sets in, the other person ends up becoming like “a piece of furniture” in the house. In other words, it’s a person who lives in the same house as us, who’s present in the living room, the kitchen and the bed, but we pass them by without paying them any real attention.

Surpassing yourself as a couple means not letting routine set in. It means giving the other person our attention and tenderness.

To do this, I invite you to ask yourself these questions:

How do I feel as a couple right now? How do I see my partner? What could I do to give my relationship more importance?

Because living your best life means no longer letting life’s little worries take precedence over the really important things.

In other words, rather than thinking about the little things in life, think about the person you love and your relationship, and concentrate on that.

4 – Surpassing yourself in your relationships

To have great relationships is to live your best life. Unfortunately, on a day-to-day basis, most of our relationships are a source of conflict, and they wear us down every day.

So how can we improve our relationships?

How can we move beyond conflict and live more serene, harmonious relationships?

I invite you to ask yourself these questions:

How do I feel in my relationships? Are they fulfilling? Do I let conflicts arise? What could I do to make my relationships even more beautiful?

In fact, don’t leave your relationships to chance by trying to bring out the best in others.

What kind of friend do you want to be? What kind of person? Who do you want to embody on this earth?

5 – Surpass yourself

We don’t always realize it, but we change too. In fact, our tastes, interests and passions change over time.

But we’re used to doing what we do all the time, without question. Yet our hearts beat slower and slower, and we hear ourselves saying “I’m bored” more and more often.

So, how can we surpass ourselves in the personal sphere of our lives?

To do so, I invite you to ask yourself these questions:

How have I been feeling lately? What makes me happy? What do I like to do? Have my tastes and desires changed? Are there things I’d like to discover or try out? How can I bring more joy into my daily life?

You know, happiness doesn’t just happen to you. In fact, happiness is built day after day through the little things, the little actions that we do with joy.

In other words, surpassing yourself to live your best life means following and nurturing your joy.

And on a personal note, I’d also like to talk about health. Do you take care of your body? What could you do to go beyond what you normally do to take better care of your body and your health?

6 – Surpassing yourself spiritually

Surpassing yourself spiritually means taking care of your soul. It’s about managing your emotions and knowing yourself.

Because we all have qualities and faults, that’s just the way it is. But nothing is set in stone.

In fact, we can develop the qualities of our choice and learn to live better with our faults to be better people.

That’s why I wholeheartedly invite you to ask yourself these questions:

How have I been feeling lately? Do I feel calm and at peace, or are there things that upset me? What can I do to regain my serenity? What qualities do I want to develop to be a better person? And what flaws do I want to work on to live with them better?

You’re a beautiful person, so take a good, curious look at yourself.

In fact, be passionate about yourself, about what’s going on inside you. Get to know yourself and give yourself permission to become a better person.

To do this, develop the qualities you admire in others and learn to live better with your faults. Don’t reject them or be ashamed of them. Embrace them and live with them, not against them.

A meditation for moving forward in life

Here’s a meditation to remind you to always move forward in life.

Sit down in a quiet place and take 10 deep breaths.

Then read the following text.

Do this meditation when you feel bored with life, when you feel you’re going round in circles, or when you realize that your fears are taking up too much space and keeping you in your comfort zone.

“I’m here,
right here, right now,
Fully aware
And vibrant with life.

I don’t rest on my laurels.
I know that life will come and shake me up.
So I take matters into my own hands,
With confidence and serenity.

I breathe in,
I know who I am.
I breathe out,
I love who I am.

Surpassing oneself doesn’t mean denying oneself,
To reject,
or criticizing yourself.
It means becoming a better person.

Because I’m here to grow,
To evolve,
Explore
And discover.

I am movement.
All is movement.

I breathe in,
I accept change.
I breathe out,
I go with life.

I take a curious look,
warm,
Humble too,
on life and myself.

I’m here to experiment,
To play with life.
So I’m no longer afraid.
I open wide my heart and arms to change.

I’ll ask my soul a question
And I’ll listen to its answer:
Where do you wish to guide me to shine brighter
And surpass myself?”

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover How to savor the present moment and be happy: 8 great tips
Discover How to stop being negative: my 5 tips for changing your state of mind

I recommend this inspiring book:

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle
Eckhart Tolle’s book focuses on the transformative power of living in the present moment. By freeing themselves from the regrets of the past and the anxieties of the future, readers can adopt a state of mindfulness that will lead them to a more fulfilled and conscious life. This timeless guide offers practical advice on how to live your best life by unleashing the potential of the present and cultivating inner peace and fulfillment.

I have already been able to incorporate the teachings of this book into my life and the lives of others. I’m very happy to have read this book. My close friend is about to finish it too.

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself