Introverts feel misunderstood and therefore rejected by others. So it’s hard to thrive when you’re an introvert. So how can you create a happy, successful life for yourself when you’re not an extrovert like most of the people around you? Here are 6 secrets to help you do just that.

1 – Learning to accept yourself in order to blossom as an introvert

Whether we’re introverts or extroverts, we all have qualities and strengths, but also faults and weaknesses. Indeed, it’s time to stop believing that extroverts have everything to please and be happy, and that introverts have few arguments. This is completely false.

An introvert has his or her place in society, just as he or she has everything it takes to live a happy and successful life.

In fact, the only real problem they face is that they don’t accept themselves. She lacks self-confidence and doesn’t believe she can thrive in life because of her introverted personality.

Yet it’s essential to understand that the only difference between an introvert and an extrovert is the way they recharge their batteries. The introvert recharges his or her energies in a quiet environment, while the extrovert recharges his or her energies in contact with others.

So, it’s time for you to accept yourself as you are, to accept that you simply need more periods of calm than extroverts. No more, no less.

This doesn’t make you a loner or a grumpy hermit. It doesn’t! Quite the contrary, since it’s said that an introvert is a person who’s more attuned to others, and whose company is sought after for its soothing and reassuring qualities.

2 – Getting to know yourself to thrive as an introvert

An introvert seems like a more complicated person to understand and get to know. But this isn’t true! It’s simply that, since the majority of people are extroverts, we know more about their needs, we have more data.

That’s why, to thrive when we’re introverts, we need to perhaps make an extra effort to get to know ourselves well. In other words, to get to know our needs.

What do you need to recharge your batteries? What do you need to feel good?

In other words, discover the activities in which you really thrive. There’s no secret to this: test yourself, explore and see what really suits you.

3 – Create a customized environment

You’re an introvert, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of or proud of. You are who you are and others are who they are. No more, no less.

No one has chosen his or her personality, but we all have to make sure we create the environment that really suits us to be happy in life.

So roll up your sleeves and take the time to create routines that you enjoy, a daily routine in which you thrive and a life that makes you feel good.

Understand that your environment and your way of life will only resemble you. In fact, every introvert will have his or her own tricks up their sleeve, and will only live in their own way.

Of course, as you’re part of a minority, it’s possible that your way of life will be mocked by some people, because they don’t understand, or don’t want to understand. It doesn’t matter, just let it be. The only thing that matters is your self-fulfilment.

4 – Find the right friends

Another difference between introverts and extroverts is the content of conversations. So this isn’t a generality either.

But, all the same, introverts will have a preference for carrying on few conversations, but more in-depth ones, whereas extroverts will prefer to carry on lots of conversations, but so-called more superficial ones.

That said, one doesn’t preclude the other. Indeed, extroverts are quite capable of having and enjoying more in-depth conversations, just as introverts will have and enjoy more superficial ones.

It’s simply a trend. But, let’s not fall into caricature either.

So, from there, it’s interesting to find people who enjoy having deeper conversations, if you’re an introvert. So, find places where you’re more likely to find these kinds of conversations.

5 – Learn how to say no to blossom as an introvert

When you’re an introvert, stimulating situations tend to exhaust you, whereas these situations tend to energize extroverts.

That’s why, when you’re an introvert, it’s important to know how to say no.

Indeed, while an extrovert may need to go out 2-3 times a week, an introvert may only need to go out once.

And that’s where knowing how to say no will become essential if you are to achieve your full potential.

There’s no secret to it: just dare to say no, dare to assert yourself and take care of your own needs before trying to please others.

To do this, it’s a good idea to explain to others our need for calm, perhaps even explaining that we’re introverts and have our own way of functioning.

Because others might need this kind of information to understand us better, and not think we’re ignoring them. So, to avoid this kind of misunderstanding, express yourself. Communicate.

6 – Knowing how to be yourself in the midst of others

To thrive in life, whether you’re an introvert or not, it’s all about being yourself, knowing how to be yourself.

Unfortunately, in the midst of others, we tend to lose ourselves and become the other. Out of fear of rejection, but also out of a desire to please.

But it’s essential to understand that if we’re all so different from each other, it’s not to strive to become carbon copies of each other.

We’re here to be ourselves, and only ourselves.

In fact, when you come into contact with another person, of course you look for commonalities, but you also look for differences. Because we feed off each other’s differences, they inspire us and open our minds.

So it’s high time you learned to be proud of who you are. This doesn’t mean becoming full of yourself. It doesn’t.

Because you can be proud and still be humble. Learn to cultivate these two postures in life, for they will guide you towards a happy and successful life. Whether you’re an introvert or not.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover How to tell if you’re an introvert: 6 signs
Discover Being an introvert: 6 exercises to accept yourself and be happy the way you are

I recommend this inspiring book:

The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World by Marti Olsen Laney PsyD

This book explores the unique strengths and qualities of introverts, providing insights and practical advice on how introverts can leverage their inherent characteristics to thrive. It offers a roadmap for navigating a world that often values extroverted qualities, allowing introverts to embrace their preferences and thrive on their own terms.

I think this book is interesting for those new to this field who need to know they’re normal, and I intend to give it to a young friend who needs to learn how to manage his very extroverted partner.

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself