When we meet positive people, we often think that they must be very lucky. Most of the time, this is completely untrue. In fact, positive people are often the ones who have been through the most, and have learned valuable lessons from it. In fact, they’ve discovered 5 secrets to becoming positive that have totally transformed them. Here they are.

1 – Take stock of what we have

In fact, positive people have a secret: they take inventory of what they have. Every single time.

Rather than always taking inventory of what they don’t have and what they may never have, they choose to take inventory of what they do have.

In other words, they’ve discovered that the feeling of satisfaction and gratitude is sweeter and more pleasant than the feeling of frustration and lack.

So they take good care, day after day, even hour after hour, to take a positive inventory of their lives.

This is why positive people are able to marvel at the immensity of the sky, the mystery of the stars, the warmth of the sun.

They know how to marvel at the taste of their morning coffee, how to constantly rediscover the smile of their loved ones.

They realize how lucky they are to have what they have right now in their lives.

In fact, they no longer feel like taking stock of what’s wrong. They’re so busy enjoying what they have.

So, their life isn’t necessarily better than others’, they just know how to enjoy it more.

So how do you do it? How do you become positive?

I wholeheartedly invite you to take inventory of what you have, right here, right now. List at least 10 things and do it all the time.

To start with, do this at least morning, noon and night.

And do it from the heart, letting gratitude take hold of you.

2 – Taking stock of who we are and who we can be

What’s more, positive people aren’t better than others. They don’t have more qualities or more strengths.

But instead of constantly putting themselves down, positive people know how to praise and compliment themselves.

In fact, they don’t waste their time lamenting what they haven’t been and may never be.

They prefer to see what they already are and what they could become with time and hard work.

Indeed, they don’t see their shortcomings or bad habits as things that stick to them, they know they can change, they have confidence.

That’s why they’re not afraid to take an honest look at themselves, without feeling the need to put themselves down.

In fact, they take a gentler, more compassionate look at themselves, and they’re convinced that every day they’ll become a little more of the people they want to be.

In fact, the secret of positive people is to accept themselves instead of rejecting themselves.

That’s why they’re able to say to themselves: “Yes, I’m like this and I can become like that”.

So, how do you become positive?

I wholeheartedly invite you to learn how to compliment and congratulate yourself. Indeed, dare to see your qualities and strengths, dare to savor your progress and small victories every day.

Finally, don’t be ashamed of your faults and weaknesses. Quite the contrary, in fact. Offer yourself comfort, gentleness and confidence in the fact that you are a beautiful person and that every day you become even more beautiful.

3 – To become positive, dive into the present moment

The secret to being positive is knowing how to enjoy the present moment.

In fact, we often become negative because we’re thinking about tomorrow, and that makes us anxious.

We’re afraid of what tomorrow won’t offer us, or even worse, what it will take away.

But positive people don’t have these fears, because they don’t think about tomorrow. This doesn’t mean that they don’t plan for tomorrow, or that they don’t have plans. Quite the contrary, in fact, since they’re so confident about tomorrow that they’re not afraid to take on new projects.

So how do you dive into the present moment and become positive?

I wholeheartedly invite you to observe yourself carefully. In fact, as soon as you feel fear or anxiety about tomorrow, come back to the present moment.

To do this, bring your thoughts back to today by taking stock of what you have right now, what you are right now.

Don’t imagine tomorrow, especially if it means seeing it in a negative light.

Prepare for it with care, confidence and hope. But stop imagining it. Return to the sweetness and hope of the present moment.

4 – Choose to expect the best rather than the worst

Positive people know that they are not prisoners of their thoughts. In fact, at any given moment, they know they have the choice to listen to them or not.

What’s more, they know the secret: we can choose to expect the best rather than the worst.

Yes, it’s our choice.

The problem is, we tend to listen too much to our mind, whose job it is to protect us from danger. Dangers it often imagines for itself.

What if this or that happened?

And we’re off to listen to our thoughts, each more distressing than the last.

Positive people know how to say stop! They can say: “I’ve decided to expect the best”.

There’s nothing naive or even thoughtless about that. On the contrary, it’s very healthy.

After all, why expect the worst when you can expect the best?

For fear of disappointment? But disappointment can be overcome.

The problem is that we don’t see how much we lose by always expecting the worst. And yet, we do nothing with our lives, remaining stuck in our comfort zone. And, little by little, we lose our joie de vivre. In fact, we don’t really live. We’re too scared to.

That’s why, to become positive, learn to expect the best.

Make it your mantra! Repeat to yourself all the time: “I expect the best”.

5 – Becoming positive means working on yourself

Positive people know that becoming positive is work they have done and continue to do day after day.

You don’t just become positive overnight, as if by magic.

In fact, becoming positive means first and foremost unlearning everything we’ve learned: stressing about everything and nothing, worrying about the future, lacking confidence in ourselves and in life, and protecting ourselves from everything and everyone.

But positive people aren’t afraid to do this work on themselves, because they know it’s the surest way to be fully happy in their lives.

In fact, becoming positive means no longer living completely overwhelmed by fear. On the contrary, it’s about living with more lightness and at the same time more depth.

It’s about realizing that, yes, we can’t control much in this life, that the unexpected will always fall into our laps, but it’s about knowing that we’ll always find ways to learn and bounce back!

In fact, becoming positive means choosing to trust ourselves and life.

Because life never punishes us, it teaches us.

I hope you become more positive every day.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover Positive thinking: 6 tips to stop negative thoughts
Discover How to free yourself from negative thoughts with Ho’oponopono in 3 steps

I recommend this inspiring book:

Positivity: Top-Notch Research Reveals the Upward Spiral That Will Change Your Life by Barbara Fredrickson

Barbara Fredrickson, a leading researcher in positive psychology, explores the science of positivity in this book. Through rigorous research, Fredrickson reveals the transformative effects of positive emotions on overall well-being. She presents practical strategies for cultivating a positive state of mind, and explains how this can lead to an upward spiral of personal growth and happiness. Positivity serves as a guide for those seeking to become more positive, providing evidence-based ideas for reshaping their thinking and improving their quality of life.

This book brings together science and great wisdom in simple language. As you move through the book, you feel as if BARBARA is speaking directly into your eyes, into your mind and opening the doors of your heart, guiding you in the direction of becoming a positive person.
You won’t be able to resist the temptation to finish the book in one go and work on your transformation.

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself