Are you going through a difficult time and don’t want to feel any more pain? Do you want negative emotions to disappear, and fear, sadness and stress to finally leave you alone? Here are 5 tips for getting through a difficult time.

1 – Accept that you’re going through a difficult time

The first thing to do is to accept that you’re in pain.

Accept the negative emotions that take us by surprise and are intense. Emotions that bring us down and take away our joie de vivre.

Because you’re going through a difficult time, it’s essential not to fight your own emotions.

So, of course, you’d like them to disappear, to leave you alone. It’s only natural.

But the more you resist, the worse you’ll feel. Because you’ll be at war with them and with yourself.

In fact, you’ll no longer be aligned with what you’re feeling. You’ll want to pretend to be happy when you’re sad, to be confident when you’re scared and stressed.

Accept that being sad, scared and stressed is normal. So don’t expect the impossible.

In fact, understand that your emotions, just like your thoughts, appear through no fault of your own.

They’re there, and the longer you push them away, the more they’ll hurt you.

That’s why I really invite you to do a test. The next time you feel sad, close your eyes and say to yourself, “Okay, I’m sad. I accept it.”

Cry. Inspire yourself. Comfort yourself. But accept.

You’ll see that sadness will have a different flavor, it will be sweeter and more fleeting.

It’s because you resist that it hurts so much. Acceptance makes the hard times sweeter.

In other words, remember, there’s no shame in feeling pain when you’re going through a difficult moment. It’s perfectly normal.

2 – Slow down

In our society, downtime is hard to come by.

Recently, I read that some companies were granting a day off for people who had just lost their pet. So it’s great that this is happening, but it’s crazy that we’re still only at this stage.

Because losing a pet is a very difficult time, and we need time to slow down, to mourn, to experience all the emotions that will shake us.

So, it’s no wonder that today, we find it so hard to get through a difficult moment, because we’ve learned not to slow down, to keep going, to act as if.

What’s more, we don’t want to inconvenience others, so we pretend everything’s fine.

That’s why I wholeheartedly invite you to understand and respect your need to slow down.

You have the right to be in pain and to take the time you need to get better. Don’t feel guilty.

3 – Surround yourself well

Being in pain makes us close in on ourselves. In small doses, this is fine, even normal.

It’s sadness that invites us to introspect, but we also need human contact. Warm, caring contact.

So dare to ask those around you for affection. That’s when you need it most, right now.

What’s more, pain makes us doubt everything – ourselves, life – and it’s essential to know how to surround ourselves with hope.

For this, quotes and readings can really help us keep hope alive to get through a difficult time.

That’s why I invite you to read sweet books, write quotes on post-it notes and hang them up everywhere, and have a little notebook of quotes to take with you wherever you go.

Because words are magic. They do us a world of good.

4 – Taking a walk in nature to get through a difficult time

When we’re in pain, we gradually close our eyes to the magic of life. That’s why it’s essential to take the time every day to go for a walk in nature.

Touch a tree, sit by the water, contemplate the sky and the stars.

It’s essential, because nature has the gift to fill us with wonder and soothe us.

Indeed, nature teaches us that nothing lasts, everything changes, and it’s thanks to these changes that life is possible.

Remember the cycle of the seasons. Remember that things change, but that there is a reason for it, a meaning, and that everything is reborn in the end.

You may be in the heart of Winter right now, but Spring will return.

5 – Don’t feel alone when you’re going through a difficult time

When we’re in pain, we turn in on ourselves, and can end up believing that we’re alone against everyone else, that no one can understand us, that no one has ever suffered as much as we have.

And the more alone we feel, the more we suffer.

That’s why I wholeheartedly invite you to meditate. Think of all the people who have suffered the same pain as you, all the people who have been through the same thing as you.

Think of all those people who may be suffering even more than you are right now.

Feel that compassion, that kindness, those bright emotions that open us up when everything inside us is telling us to close up.

Open yourself up.

Suffering is part of life. It happens to everyone, every day. But suffering is a teacher: you’ll grow stronger, and more humble too.

Life isn’t rosy, but it’s beautiful. So keep hoping.

Find out more:

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I recommend this inspiring book:

Everything Happens for a Reason: And Other Lies I’ve Loved by Kate Bowler

Kate Bowler’s memoir takes us on a journey through her experience of a life-changing diagnosis. In the face of adversity, the book reflects on how to get through difficult times, challenging the idea that everything happens for a reason. Bowler’s poignant story explores the complexities of resilience, faith and finding meaning in the midst of hardship. It becomes a source of inspiration for those seeking to understand how to navigate difficult times and redefine perspectives in the face of life’s uncertainties.

Her frank approach to apprehending the reality of death and reconciling her faith with that reality is well written. We take this journey with her and meet the people who helped her.

This book reminded me to be present in the moment and sensitive to the world around me.

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself