There are some break-ups that you just can’t accept. We know there’s still something to live for, something to try again. There’s love on both sides, but we just don’t know how. So how do you get your ex back? Here are 5 things you can do.

1 – Distancing yourself to get your ex back

To get your ex back, don’t make the mistake of trying to see him or her all the time. And especially not crying in his or her arms or on his or her knees.

The best thing to do is to distance yourself.

First of all, your sadness and grief are not pleasant for your ex. In fact, he feels he’s hurting you (which is true in a way), so he’ll be desperate to get away from you.

This will make it difficult for you to see him or her again.

In other words, keep your distance for as long as your grief is present.

Cry in the arms of loved ones and friends. But not in the arms of your ex. Even if that’s what you’re dying to do.

It’s not a good solution if you want him or her back in your life.

So, how long do you need to keep your distance?

Just long enough for you to dry your tears and soothe your grief. The time you need to be able to see your ex again with a smile.

2 – Taking care of yourself to get your ex back

Unaccepted break-ups can lead to depression.

In fact, we stop taking care of ourselves and our lives.

We drop everything and curl up in a ball under the comforter.

It’s only natural. Grief and sadness invite us to slow down and mourn our loss.

That said, there’s living with sadness and there’s clinging to it. Can you see the difference?

Indeed, to get your ex back, it’s essential to continue taking care of yourself and your life.

Because you don’t look very appealing when you’re curled up in bed crying your eyes out.

What makes you feel good is someone who’s up and about.

So, yes, you can be sad from time to time. You may have moments of grief when you run off to bed.

But not all day, not all week.

So, if you want to get your ex back, pick yourself up. Give it your best shot.

You know, I often say when my loved ones are grieving: at first, you’re going to cry morning, noon and night. Then you’ll cry in the morning and in the evening. Then, you’ll only cry in the morning. Well, more than every other morning, every third morning… and one day, you’ll stop crying without even realizing it.

In other words, don’t hold on to your sadness. Live it, but don’t go under.

3 – Stop brooding

In my opinion, the worst thing about a break-up is the thoughts that keep coming back: why did this happen? What if I had done that? What if I had said that?

It’s terrible to spend all our time thinking about what hurts us.

But it’s hard to stop. I know all about that.

So, what can you do?

Set a goal. Any goal. As long as it keeps you from brooding.

It could be getting back into sport, starting a new hobby, a professional goal, moving house, going on vacation…

The aim is for you to get your daily routine moving, to have something to do, something to think about.

It could even be learning a foreign language or going back to school.

I know it’s not easy when all you want to do is get your ex back, but it’s necessary.

You need to do something else and think about something else.

In fact, it’s not by dwelling on things that you’re going to change your situation, not at all.

It’s by dwelling on things that you’ll end up depressed.

Besides, this could be the best time for you to learn about happiness and how to be happy in life.

I’d be happy to help you.

4 – Working on the causes of the breakup

During this break-up period, it’s also essential to reflect on why it didn’t work out, and to find solutions.

What can you change? What can you do differently to make things better in the future?

In fact, assume that the other person won’t change and that it’s up to you to change. This will save you a lot of trouble later on.

And if you notice that it’s really up to the other person to change, then maybe it’s not such a good idea to get back together.

In fact, sometimes it’s better to be hurt once and for all, rather than trying again and again, only to leave for the same reasons and go through the same heartache all over again.

So try to see what inner changes you can make to ensure a more harmonious relationship in the future.

I believe that break-ups, like other trials in life, are there to help us grow and evolve.

In other words, they don’t just hurt us, they also make us stronger.

In other words, look for the lessons.

5 – Having the confidence to get your ex back

How do you know when it’s the right time to get your ex back?

Now that we’ve distanced ourselves, taken care of ourselves, set goals and worked on ourselves, when is the right time to get your ex back?

It’s all about trusting that life will give you an opportunity.

In fact, the problem with breaking up and getting your ex back is that we resist what is, believing that we can control everything and that everything depends on us.

But it doesn’t!

In fact, there are things that depend on you, but there are also many things that depend on your ex and also things that depend on the “hazards” of life.

So, here it’s all about taking a deep breath and saying to yourself: “I did what I had to do. In fact, if I’m totally honest, I’d say I feel a lot better. Now, if it’s meant to be, it will be. I’ll wait for the right moment to come.”

In fact, in life, we make the big mistake of acting in chaos. When we need to act in calm.

After all, we can’t get what we want by waving our arms all over the place. It’s in the calm that life’s magic happens.

So don’t give up hope. Continue to live your life with the hope that your ex will come back. Take a breath. Make your peace. Trust.

Find out more:

I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover Unrequited love: 5 secrets to get over it fast
Discover Nobody loves me: 5 magic steps to feeling more loved

I recommend this inspiring book:

Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You by Susan J. Elliott

Susan J. Elliott’s book is a guide for those navigating the difficult terrain of a breakup. While the title may suggest reconciliation, the essence of the book lies in personal growth and transformation. It provides practical advice and strategies for healing, rebuilding self-esteem and moving forward. Rather than focusing solely on winning back an ex, the book will encourage you to prioritize his or her well-being and discover the potential for positive change within.

Should you want a gentle but firm approach to dealing with your break-up, this book will offer you relevant advice that won’t make you feel ashamed of your emotions or your experience. It’s an excellent blend of sound advice from professionalism and experience. This book will really help you get over your breakup.

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself