Do you know the 5 love languages? It’s how you express the love you feel for someone, and conversely, how they feel about you.

There are 5 different ways of expressing and receiving love. For a more fulfilling married life, it’s important to know your own and your partner’s love language.

Through this article, learn to love with the language you don’t master and to be loved with the language you don’t appreciate. To do this, you need to:

Know the different expressions of love
Get to know yourself
Adapt your love language to that of your partner, so you can feel fulfilled.

Discover the 5 languages of love
Love has always been an interesting subject for debate, but it’s far from easy to understand.
“The heart has its reasons that reason ignores.”

That’s why, in most couples, passion disappears after a few years of romance. Misunderstandings are often at the root of arguments. And they always revolve around the same subject: lack of love and fear of abandonment.

LACK OF LOVE OR JUST A FEELING?
But are you really in need of love, or is it just an impression? Sometimes you think your partner doesn’t love you because he/she doesn’t give you enough time or doesn’t express his/her feelings often enough.

But you need to know that everyone has their own way of expressing love. Just because your partner doesn’t say “I love you” every 30 minutes, or doesn’t call you often enough (for your taste), doesn’t necessarily mean that he/she doesn’t love you.

There are 5 different ways of giving and receiving love.

THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES: REWARDING WORDS
Valuing words are among the most widely used love languages. They allow you to sincerely express how you feel through words, whether face-to-face, by text message or written letter.

Valuing words are therefore expressed directly. There are three different ways of expressing them, including paying compliments, encouraging your partner or saying sweet, kind words.

Don’t forget that words are very important in a relationship (whether it’s friendship, family or love). They can comfort the person you love, just as they can hurt them. If your partner is the type to speak this language, don’t hesitate to reciprocate.

Sometimes, one word can change everything. Rewarding words can help you regain your self-confidence and fill your love tank. So why not use them every day?

THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES: QUALITY MOMENTS
These are the good moments you share with the person or people you love (parents, friends, spouse, children…): the laughter, the discussions until two in the morning, the family vacations, etc.

Whatever you do, wherever you are, the most important thing is to spend time with the person you love, to feel their presence and enjoy the power of the present moment.

Quality moments are certainly the most appreciated love language (especially for women). They show the love you feel for someone, without necessarily having to say a word.

THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES: GIFTS
Everyone loves gifts. It’s not about money or greed, but a sign of affection. In general, when you give someone a present, it’s not the value that counts in their eyes (except in exceptional cases, perhaps), but the time you took to buy and give it.

Giving a gift is a good way to please the person you love. It’s all the more valuable when it’s given for no reason at all (no special occasion, such as a wedding anniversary, Valentine’s Day or the like).

THE 5 LANGUAGES OF LOVE: SERVICES RENDERED
Doing someone a favor is another way of telling them you care. It could be your close family (your grandfather, for example), a friend or your spouse.

Men are the ones who use this love language the most. Gallant by nature, they express their affection by offering help (financial or material). Financial and moral support for those who are suffering or in difficulty are also part of the services rendered. So be careful not to overlook kindness as one of the ways in which your loved one may express his or her love for you.

THE 5 LANGUAGES OF LOVE: PHYSICAL TOUCH
Physical contact is as important in a relationship as it is in a family. It’s the most expressive way of showing someone you care. It can be a hug, a caress, a pat on the back, a kiss, a hug or a handshake.

Of the 5 love languages, this is the easiest to implement. It allows you to get physically close to the person you love and share intimacy with them.

What about you? What’s your favorite love language? To find out, first get to know yourself.

Get to know yourself to find yours!
There aren’t a thousand and one ways to know your preferred love language. The only way to find out is to boost your self-knowledge. Here, the idea is to do some introspection that will help you analyze your emotions. This will not only help you understand yourself, but also improve your relationships with others.

See how you react to other people’s complimentary words and physical touch. Do you enjoy it? Do you prefer gestures to words, or is it the other way around? You be the judge. In any case, knowing your emotions will help you better express your love and receive the affection you desire.

If you’re having trouble expressing your love or focusing your love language, ask your partner what’s missing in your relationship. Is it sweet words, affectionate gestures or service?

On your side, share your feelings and try to adapt your love language to that of your partner.

Adapt your love language to that of your partner
Most of the time, you show your love to your partner the way you’d like him or her to show it to you. But everyone has their own way of showing affection. This is what often leads to misunderstanding in a couple, and sometimes even to a break-up…

So the question is, “How do you love your partner the way he/she would like to be loved?” It’s simple: look at how the other person acts with you, and how he/she usually demonstrates his/her love.

If your partner is the type to tell you to your face that he/she loves you, or often gives you gifts, it’s because he/she’d like you to do the same. If your partner tends to compliment you, don’t hesitate to do the same.

Finally, if you’re married or in a relationship, make sure you spend time together to rekindle the flame. Share a common activity and don’t hesitate to take a break to discuss your feelings.

HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF LOVED?
Here, the principle remains the same: to be loved in the same way as your partner. To do this, all you have to do is find out what your partner never does, or what hurts you the most in his or her behavior (and words). Let him/her know how you feel, and don’t hesitate to let him/her know what you’d like (a romantic getaway, a box of chocolates, a phone call now and then, words of love…).

The important thing is for you to understand each other and adapt to each other’s love language. Learn to love with the language you don’t master, and appreciate the love language he or she gives you, even if you’re not used to it.

Love is a choice, because you can learn your partner’s love language to express your affection. But remember, learning to love always starts with learning to love yourself.

What do you ask your partner most often? What about him/her? Does he/she ask you to love him/her differently? What love language do you speak? Feel free to leave your opinion in the comments section.