Making the right choices is a daily challenge!

Should I accept this new position? Should I continue my studies or look for a job? Is this the right time to start a family? What style of house or apartment would suit me best?

Making the right choices can seem difficult.

The idea of making a decision creates a climate of anxiety. But life is all about making choices.

You make them every day. Some, of course, are more important and decisive than others. But small choices today can also have a big impact in the long term.

So it’s important to consider choices as a whole, whatever their importance.

Learning to make the right choices every day is important, because it allows you to move forward in your life, without depending on others.

Unfortunately, the fear of making a mistake, of failing, of not making the right decision or the fear of regret can prevent us from making choices.

How do we know when a particular choice is the right one? How can we make the right choices at the right time?

To answer these questions, you can use the following 2 methods.

The rational approach

You can adopt a rational approach by :

Weighing up the pros and cons
Analyzing the consequences of making a decision
Questioning the underlying reasons for your choices.

This method offers a number of advantages for making the right choices:

You take time to think. Your final choice will be based on tangible elements.

This way of working may suit you, especially if you’re a rational person. You let your reason speak for itself.

I don’t see why not.

Reasoning also has its drawbacks. It’s impossible to predict the future, and your assumptions are bound to be random. What’s more, if you think too hard, you run the risk of postponing the choice ad vitam aeternam. By waiting until you’ve analyzed everything, you run the risk of remaining in a state of non-choice. Sometimes, however, you need to make a decision quickly.

And what happens if your heart tells you otherwise?

THE INTUITIVE APPROACH
Another approach to making the right choices is to put more trust in your intuition, to feel things, to appeal to your emotions. This way of making choices has the advantage of being more centered on oneself, and of making a decision solely on the basis of internal factors.

However, relying solely on your feelings may seem too fragile, as it is extremely subjective.

So what’s the right recipe for making a choice, and a good one at that?

First of all, I don’t think there’s any ideal method for making the right choices and committing to something new.

To approach the question of choice, I’d suggest abandoning 2 big ideas.

TO MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICES: SHUN PERFECTIONISM
There is no such thing as a good choice or a perfect choice. The only thing you can do is act after thinking and listening to your feelings.

By taking action, you’re testing out solutions.

Yes, you have the right to make mistakes.

And what’s more, you didn’t make a mistake, you took action.

You tried something.

Afterwards, you take stock. You can see whether your choice was right or wrong. You can analyze the circumstances that led to the result. And you can try something else again, changing the circumstances, taking a different route.

TO MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICES: PLAY IT DOWN
Most choices are not irrevocable. Few choices are absolutely definitive, so play down your decision-making. It’s our mental barriers and our idea of our current circumstances that stop us in our tracks.

There will always be time to make new choices, to make new attempts.

With these two big ideas in mind, making a choice will no longer be a problem for you, because you’ll have banished the fear of failure. Each choice will be an additional experience in your life. The sum of these experiences will then constitute your life path in all its uniqueness.

How do you make your choices? Are you afraid of failing?