A discussion needs to be initiated, led and relaunched. To do this, you need to be cultured and passionate about words. This means reading a lot, keeping up to date with the latest news, and so on. Even when you’ve done all that, you still need to find the right way to introduce your topic of conversation.

In this article, I’ll give you a few tips on how to make your discussions a success.

Introduce the conversation with trivial topics

The most mundane topic you can start a conversation with is undoubtedly current affairs. News concerns everyone. No matter what kind of person you’re talking to, this is a welcome topic of discussion. Better still, if you’ve just met the person you’re talking to and have no idea what his or her interests are, it’s best to start with this type of conversation topic.

Start with a news item you’ve found in a newspaper or on the Internet. This creates a friendly atmosphere where you can even start a debate. News is also an ideal topic for text message discussion, whether in a chat group or alone with someone you’re talking to.

HOW DO YOU GET A CONVERSATION GOING AGAIN WHEN YOUR INTERLOCUTORS ARE BORED OF YOU?

When you notice that a discussion is slowly dying down, one thing you can do to get it going again is to bounce back into the discussion by giving your opinion. You can use expressions such as “I sincerely believe that”, “in my humble opinion”… Put forward your emotions, your ideas. This tip could help you answer the question of how to get a conversation going again and steer it in another, even more heated direction. Giving your opinion doesn’t mean monopolizing the conversation. If you do, you risk annoying your interlocutors even more.

ASK QUESTIONS TO GET THE CONVERSATION GOING AGAIN
When you notice that the discussion is becoming dormant, you can try to get the other person going again by asking questions. For example, when you’ve finished giving your opinion on the subject, you can say:

“What do you think?
“I’d love to hear your opinion on the subject”.
“your opinion on the subject means a lot to me”.

If the subject of conversation is already six feet under and you can hear the flies buzzing around the room, you can break the silence with a question addressed to the other person about themselves, their work or their preferences, for example. We all have that egocentric side. This makes it much easier to talk about ourselves.

However, there’s a pitfall to opening up a discussion with questions. When you ask questions, there are innuendos that your interlocutor could misinterpret. What’s more, asking questions requires a good culture and knowledge of the art of conversation, in order to keep up with your interlocutors’ turns of phrase.

Conversation topics by text message: the case of flirting

There’s nothing more intimidating than trying to find a subject to discuss by text message with someone you’ve just met and who interests you. You’ve only just met this person, maybe you’ve never even seen them, and yet you’ve got to have a conversation with them – difficult, isn’t it?

Well, actually, it’s nothing complicated at all, and having a chat by text messages seems less stressful than a physical one. To start with, ask how he or she is doing. Then, as I said earlier, you can try to start the discussion with a topical subject, so as not to make your intentions too obvious and risk being dumped before you’ve even tried.

When the person you’re talking to is a woman, find a topic of conversation in the field of fashion, cinema, equality… In general, women like to be talked about. So make sure you choose a topic of conversation by text message along these lines. You can still collide and get an “ok”! Even if you’ve spent all your time finding a topic.

It’s suicidal to say “okay” in a conversation. It’s hard to know what the other person is thinking, and it’s hard to know what to say next. So how do you restart a conversation after an “ok”?

HOW TO PREVENT RECEIVING ONE-WORD ANSWERS?
The ‘ok’ in a conversation hurts more than when you’re ‘friendzoned’. But that doesn’t mean it’s the end. When the other person replies ‘Ok’, it means you haven’t been as clever with the topics of conversation you’ve introduced. So try to find subjects to which the other person can’t reply ‘ok’.

For example, try talking about the latest episode of a TV series you like (and that many others like). If she likes it too, she’ll tell you. If not, she’ll let you know, and then you can ask her what she likes.

Conversation is an art we all need to cultivate.