Every day, we hear about physical violence in relationships, at work or in the street. But we never hear about psychological violence. In fact, a manipulative sulker is someone who exerts psychological violence on his or her victims. This psychological violence leads to feelings of sadness and guilt. Guilt can plunge the victim into a deep silence that distances them from their oppressor.

To avoid being psychologically damaged, it’s important to know how to live with this kind of person. In this article, we’ll learn how to live with a person with a manipulative profile.

How to recognize a manipulator’s profile?

Careful appearance, seductive air, smooth talker, pervert, the psychological manipulator acts like a kind, self-confident person. By playing on your feelings, he or she lulls your mind and your vigilance. In reality, the sulky manipulator is living proof of the saying “appearances are deceiving”. He advances serenely with a single objective: to use you to achieve his ends. Once he removes his mask, you’ll see that he’s a very morose person with no joie de vivre. He’s very selfish and impatient. Indeed, any affection or attention he may have given you is pure stimulation. He’s very devaluing and mocking. All these criteria combine to create a portrait of the manipulator.

Psychologically speaking, the sulky manipulator is a person in pain. In reality, their attitude is simply the result of a deep-seated psychological malaise. They try to transfer their feelings and emotions onto others. This is the only way he can feel fulfilled and happy. A fictitious happiness that disappears once he finds himself alone in front of the mirror.

HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH A MANIPULATOR AT WORK?
Working with a psychological manipulator is a dose of stress on top of the usual stress. When it comes to your boss, he or she will use you beyond the norm to achieve his or her goals. He will often treat you as a subordinate without freedom, and will never appreciate your efforts. If it’s a sulky, manipulative colleague, he’ll do everything in his power to devalue you in front of your boss. He’ll take all your exploits upon himself and be in a race of extreme and permanent rivalry with you. When you come across this kind of person, you need to develop the skills to deal with them and, above all, not let them ruin your professional life.

First and foremost, avoid arguing too much with these colleagues. In fact, it’s by arguing that the latter will find arguments and feign feelings of care to get at you. You may be called unsociable. But it’s better to be called unsociable than to be the victim of a manipulator at work. When you’re in a meeting with a sulky, manipulative colleague, avoid trying to argue with him or her and show that you’re right. Let him believe he’s right. He’ll be satisfied and you’ll be rid of him. But once you’ve withdrawn, do what you have to do. In reality, silence is the best response to sulking. By remaining silent, the manipulator himself will be intrigued. He’ll want to sulk more, but still remain serene. He’ll be confused and realize that his game isn’t working with you.

LIVING WITH OR BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MANIPULATIVE SULKER
The couple relationship between two normal people is already a relationship that doesn’t look like a quiet river. Sometimes calm, sometimes noisy and sometimes pink, it’s a relationship extremely influenced by the way both partners act. When a normal person in a couple is replaced by a psychological manipulator, imagine the result. Living as a couple with this person is a risk. You have to work on yourself to accept them as they are. In reality, this person always considers himself to be perfect. For them, it’s everyone else who has a problem. But in reality, it’s just a transfer of guilt for his own feelings.

Living in a stable, harmonious relationship with a manipulative sulky is an almost impossible dream. In a single day or week, he may have a series of sulking episodes. During these phases, when he spends his time blaming his partner, the relationship and projects are put on hold. In addition to the sulking, the ego kicks in and the sulker waits for the sulked person to make the first move, which isn’t always easy. Since the sulky person is also sensitive and has feelings. After a few days, he or she may crack and the couple is in a mess.

IS IT REALLY POSSIBLE TO LIVE WITH A MANIPULATOR?
The manipulative sulky is above all a human being who has been forged by life’s circumstances. Often, such an attitude is the fruit of a troubled past. The manipulator may have been confronted with fear, anger or tears as a child. Unable to confront these feelings at an early age, they accumulate and manifest themselves later in life. Sulking is a way of making others pay for the inability or fear to express feelings and emotions. It is possible to resolve the problem and achieve emotional well-being.

A manipulative sulker can decide to stop being if he or she really wants to. Indeed, the first step towards healing is to recognize that he has a problem. Once he accepts that he has a problem, he can seek help from those around him and from someone who is an expert in the treatment of such disorders. The first step in treatment will be to determine the cause of this psychologically manipulative ability. Only by curing the causes can the individual himself find peace and freedom. As the person close to the psychological manipulator, you need to be very patient and attentive to changes during the healing phase.

Are you living with a sulky manipulator? Now you know what to do!