Whether you’re newlyweds looking for the miracle recipe to make this new union last, or an old couple who’ve lost sight of each other, your goal is certainly the same: to avoid ending in failure, in divorce. What most of us forget, however, is that you don’t have to look far to achieve this. You simply have to know how to show your love. It may not be enough to ensure a fulfilling life together, but it’s probably the best way to preserve your “attachment” to each other. Easier said than done, you might ask? Well, not really. It’s usually done through small gestures on a daily basis. So here are a few tips that could certainly point you in the right direction.

But first, what’s the point of knowing how to show your love?

WHY IS SHOWING LOVE IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE?
Many people are often mistaken about marriage. It’s not enough to love someone in order to live together successfully. How many couples have parted ways despite the undeniable love between them? How many have seen their connection and complicity fade over time? In reality, a successful marriage rests on many foundations, the most important of which is knowing how to show your love.

When you’ve been with someone for a long time, it’s very easy to take your partner for granted. You’ve already put a ring on their finger, so why make any more effort? Often, we don’t even realize it until we’re up against the wall. And then it’s often too late. We simply don’t think about the fact that it’s just as crucial to preserve the well-being and fulfillment you experienced at the start of your romance.

You’ve allowed your husband or wife to become part of your life, no doubt because you value them. But it’s no use if your partner doesn’t feel it. That’s why it’s so important to show your love and express your feelings. Not only will you make your other half happier, but you’ll also be able to live in a serene environment.

WHAT’S THE BEST WAY TO SHOW YOUR LOVE?
Contrary to popular belief, the main problem for married couples who drift apart is not a lack of love. It’s simply that one of them has reached the end of his or her patience. In fact, monotony quickly sets in when you’re not paying attention. We get caught up in work, responsibilities, children, etc., and neglect to show our love. However, the feeling of no longer being valued, even if the feelings are there, creates a deep sense of emptiness. This is usually the beginning of any problem.

But the truth is that most of the time, it’s simply due to not knowing how to express your feelings of love. So, to guide you and simplify the task, let’s review two principles of love.

LOVE IS GIVING, NOT RECEIVING
There are many different ways to show your love and make your relationship last. The first is to give. Giving your time, doing favors, offering gifts, lending an ear… And all this without expecting anything in return. Think about how you feel when someone makes you feel important. Your wife or husband deserves to experience this too. So express your love and affection. What better way to do it?

Reserve a table at your husband’s favorite restaurant.
Leave a note on the fridge before you go to work.
Go to bed at the same time.
Say yes to sleeping in on the weekend.
Surprise with a little kiss, for no reason at all.
Send a quick text message when he or she is at work.
Plan a short surprise trip.

But above all, always offer her respect.
That also means giving him or her a little space every now and then. Fusional love can be a good thing, but it also creates a certain emotional dependence. In short, there are many ways to express your feelings of love.

LOVE ALSO MEANS CARING
Getting to know your partner better is the key to a happy marriage. Only then can you identify the things each of you likes to do and receive. However, showing your love also means showing kindness. Don’t wait for the couple’s crises to begin. Focus on small, thoughtful gestures on a daily basis. But most importantly, when your partner is facing a problem, offer him or her your support.

Made a mistake? Prefer discussion and understanding to reproaches.
Lost a job? Find a solution together.
Feeling a little down? Offer your shoulder.
Invasive mother-in-law? Work together to find a solution.
Monotony setting in? A little game with your partner or family can be an excellent alternative.

Depending on the situation, be the solution, not the last straw. It’s a very effective way of showing your love.

SHOWING YOUR LOVE: WHERE DOES COMMUNICATION FIT IN?
The “communication” process for expressing love may be done by:

Physical touch;
Valuing words;
Quality time;
Gifts and
Services rendered.

There’s no better way to find out what form your wife or husband appreciates than through communication. What’s more, it’s a very effective way of relearning to love each other, of rediscovering each other. It’s much easier to show your love and express your feelings. In fact, there’s nothing worse than a lack of communication to destroy a marriage. So always be attentive to your partner’s needs. Always encourage him/her to express him/herself, even if what he/she has to say isn’t necessarily pleasant for you. But above all, value and respect his/her opinions.