This is precisely the case with Andrea, who asked me in her message whether it was possible to heal from a break-up. She compared the separation to an illness that seemed incurable to her, because she was in the middle of a depression, and I realized that sometimes you have to see sentimental problems in this way to motivate yourself to take action! That’s why I wanted to send her a special reply in this article, which is dedicated to her but also to all those going through a painful break-up.

BREAK-UPS ARE A SOCIAL PROBLEM!
The figures are clear, and all you had to do was turn on your TV last week to see this, as most of the news programmes reported on the divorce figures. It’s a simple but chilling fact that practically one in two marriages ends up before a family court judge, with all that this entails in terms of suffering, soul-searching and consequences for the couple’s children and loved ones.

Before I started working in this field on a day-to-day basis, I was well aware that many people were having sentimental problems and that divorce rates were on the rise, but it’s only when I’m out in the field that I realize the societal tragedy this causes. Break-ups are on the increase, and men and women tend to separate at the slightest altercation. The question is no longer “how to save your relationship and rebuild your marriage”, but “how to heal from a break-up”. But what if that’s where the real problem lies? Especially if you’ve just gone through a difficult break-up, don’t feel guilty, because that’s not my intention. It’s more a reflection on life as a couple.

A few decades ago, we couldn’t leave each other so “easily”, mainly because of the way other people looked at us, but that’s not the only explanation. Nowadays, family pressure is much lower, and to my mind this is a step in the right direction, because after all, everyone is free to lead their own lives as they see fit. On the other hand, I have the feeling that the term love used to have a stronger meaning than it does today.

Nowadays, everything moves so fast that if you don’t get what you want in terms of a relationship, you don’t linger, you don’t try to understand the other person better, to enter their world. From now on, love life consists of :

• Registering on a dating site or dating app,
• Communicating as quickly as possible,
• See each other within a few days,
• Leaving the natural aside to show your best side,
• Advancing in a relationship without really knowing each other,

Social pressure is often just as strong as ever, and that’s why you tell yourself that before you’re 30, you absolutely have to be set up and that time is running out.

Mind you, I’m not suggesting that love life used to be “better” or that we should go back in time. It’s just that we’re witnessing a breakdown in the family unit that’s having an impact on society as a whole, and which it would be easy to combat. With a few simple exercises, a rethink and a new attitude, it would be possible to reduce the number of divorces by half. Every year, hundreds of couples get back together on my advice, so why not you?

That’s why I keep on working every day, to make as many people as possible aware of this problem, so that we can find concrete solutions!

After this cry from the heart, I’m going to give you my advice, because I imagine it’s what you’ve been waiting for!

HEALING FROM SEPARATION: YES, BUT HOW?
As with any medical problem, you’re going to need a treatment, and that treatment involves rebuilding yourself to heal from a break-up. Forget any far-fetched techniques! My advice doesn’t involve drawing cards or reading from a magic ball whether or not you’ll be able to get back on your feet.
In your situation, you need to take concrete initiatives and not rely on false illusions and/or the advice of someone who isn’t really interested in your story! Whether you read my articles or go further, you’ll find plenty of advice and tips on how to say goodbye to heartache and post-separation depression.

In order to feel better, you need to get to the bottom of what drove you to this break-up, i.e. to understand it through precise analysis. To find an effective remedy, you can’t just wait for time to take its toll. It’s through precise techniques that you’ll be able to move forward and leave no more room for distress. You can get out of it, but you’ve got to take the lead, but not just any way…

THE 2 WAYS TO HEAL FROM A BREAK-UP!
If it’s freezing outside and you go out in a T-shirt, you shouldn’t complain about being the sick one the next day. When it comes to breaking up with someone, unfortunately, it’s the same principle: wondering how to heal from a breakup also means knowing how to avoid finding yourself in a complicated situation!

If your relationship is in a rut, if you never listen to your partner, if you take him/her for granted, if you don’t spend enough time together enjoying each other’s company, you have to understand that this situation is not going to please him/her and will even push him/her to make a serious decision: to separate! In the same way, if you’re unfaithful, you need to open your eyes to your own behavior and realize that it’s preventing you from really blossoming!

I don’t want to alarm you or stir up the pot, but I do want to make you aware that you have the possibility of changing your relationship and avoiding these unpleasant experiences. That’s if you’re still in a relationship, but your relationship is on the rocks.

On the other hand, for people who have suffered a separation and are struggling to get back on their feet, there are two types of action you can take. You can either consider winning back your ex in order to regain your love, or you can forget about your former partner and move on. It goes without saying that, depending on the choice you make, your actions will be diametrically opposed. So it’s up to you to make the right decision and adopt the ideal course of action. If you’re not sure what to do, and you’d really like to take stock before making your decision, then I suggest you follow this program.

Healing a break-up is obviously possible, and it’s the mission I’ve been on for years, but it’s important to know that it’s better to act beforehand so as not to have to endure these terrible moments. As the saying goes, prevention is better than cure. What’s more, sometimes it doesn’t take much to bring about lasting change. Now you know what you have to do…