You’re jealous and possessive, and it’s ruining all your relationships? How can you gain self-confidence in your love life and not fear betrayal from your other half at every turn? What tips do you have for never letting your negative emotions get the better of you?

Mastering your jealous and possessive side is crucial if you want to build a relationship on a stable and serene basis.

WHERE EXACTLY DOES JEALOUSY COME FROM?

I’ve often asked myself this question when coaching men in their desire to control their jealousy, and more particularly their impulsiveness in moments of doubt. And then, over the course of my meetings and analyses, I discovered something that frequently came up: the need to be the center of his partner’s attention.

Some men are absolutely determined to keep their independence, so they’ll find it hard to be jealous or possessive, as they’d never accept their partner acting in this way. Other men, on the other hand, need to feel that their partner is devoted and has eyes only for them!

Under these conditions, I’ve found that when this need isn’t fully met, the man is bound to have negative reactions, such as jealousy or possessiveness taken to extremes.

It’s worth noting, however, that despite all their partner’s efforts, men often feel it’s not enough, and always want more. This is a real underlying problem linked to a genuine lack of self-esteem, which needs to be tackled in depth through a personal development program focusing on various notions such as self-control, working on energy, mastering emotions and attitude. But that’s not all, as I’ll come back to later in this article.

In the final analysis, jealousy stems mainly from the way you look at your relationship, and particularly at your partner, because the fear of being left is never far away, but also from your degree of self-confidence or self-esteem.

HOW TO CONTROL YOUR JEALOUS SIDE?
I know you’re expecting a miracle formula for overcoming jealousy in the space of a few minutes, watch in hand, thanks to hypnosis and/or NLP exercises, but unfortunately (or fortunately!) these empty promises aren’t part of my modus operandi, and you won’t find anything like them on my website.
Sorry to disappoint you! But let’s be realistic for a moment…

To overcome jealousy, you first have to learn to build yourself up and define what I call your “value system”. The more you build up your self-confidence through various exercises, the more certain you’ll be that you’re the one and only in your partner’s eyes. In this way, you’ll gradually overcome your jealous, possessive and needy side.

To find out how to overcome jealousy, you need to be able to answer a single question: “What can you offer your partner to make her truly happy? Based on this analysis, you’ll be able to determine the right strategy to satisfy your partner.

WHAT’S THE BEST WAY TO BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM?

I’d like to congratulate you for not being afraid of the idea of having to take action to build yourself up, and that this work may take several weeks or even months to consolidate. On the other hand, you’ll be doing it for the rest of your life. So, to help you never again experience those periods of jealousy that make you unbearable, or to combat the fear of losing the woman you love simply because you don’t feel up to it…

So to encourage you and really push you forward, I’ve chosen to give you the complete plan for working on your possessive side and really controlling your jealousy.

1/ SPORT AS THE MAIN TOOL!
There’s no miracle cure for jealousy, but sport is often synonymous with self-confidence. I was recently talking to a sports coach who described physical activity as the ideal therapy for low self-esteem. If you want to stick to the classic approach, you could also consider couple therapy.

Being jealous means being afraid of seeing your partner leave with another man, so by taking care to build up a stronger sense of self-worth, this fear will diminish as you focus on other aspects and more specifically on yourself.

And as with all situations in life, if you want to make rapid progress towards your goal of mastering your jealous side quickly, I recommend that you go the extra mile and put all your energy into it!

2/ LET YOUR DREAMS SPEAK TO SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP!
Just like a lack of confidence, jealousy takes root in a couple when you think you’re no longer the ideal partner for your partner. So, in order to leave your old demons behind, I recommend that you do everything you can to improve your life as a couple and let your desires speak for themselves.

I’m convinced that you have an enormous amount of happiness to bring your wife. So why not capitalize on the innovation you can bring to your relationship to make it stronger, and ensure that your partner can’t find a man more caring and involved than you?

Take a few minutes to stop reading and pick up a blank sheet of paper to write down all the things you’d like to experience now or in the future with your partner. This will be your couple’s diary!

3/ CONTROLLING CRISES THROUGH COMMUNICATION!
As you’ve already read, to combat your jealous side, you need to focus on yourself to build confidence and create an ideal relationship. You can also count on your partner’s support to use communication as a powerful means of overcoming your doubts about losing her.

The first step is to talk about your fears, which are usually linked to your romantic past. But just because you were cheated on or betrayed in your “previous married life” doesn’t mean your partner has to suffer the consequences now. So once you’ve assessed the “why” of your jealousy, I recommend that you enter into a dialogue, suggesting the solutions you’ve considered to restore balance and a positive situation for both of you.

The more you communicate without taboos, the more you’ll be able to free yourself of a burden. By explaining exactly how you feel, you’ll be able to count on your girlfriend or wife to help you be more understanding and, above all, to take action to overcome your fears and regain control of your love life, making it much more fulfilling.