We often think that love is only natural and instinctive, but in reality we can and, I would even say, must learn to love. We must learn to love, to receive and to give love. To do this, we must rely not on others but on ourselves. Self-confidence in love is essential if you really want to find happiness and/or keep it. That’s how you can overcome your fears!

SELF-CONFIDENCE IS ESSENTIAL IN LOVE
Following a break-up or a painful event, it’s only logical that your morale should sink to an all-time low, that you should be totally overwhelmed by this radical change, and that a depression in love should follow. Even if your relationship has been in crisis for several weeks or even longer, it’s always a shock when the man or woman you share your life with decides to pack up and leave. It’s one of the most difficult trials of a love life, but not the only one… You’d got into a routine, you’d perhaps even made plans for the two of you, but now, unfortunately, despair is taking over more and more of your life, and those plans are falling through.
Before attempting anything, or even if you want to turn the page once and for all, there is one imperative step. Reconstructing yourself becomes an absolute necessity. Self-confidence in love should never be neglected, as it will serve you well not only in your love life, but more generally in your personal life.

Contrary to what most people think when it comes to getting back an ex, the first step is not to apologize, give a gift or write a nice love letter, no, you need to do something for yourself first, to get your morale up and feel better about yourself by fighting the emotional dependency you may have been feeling.

Before thinking about anything in your love life, it’s essential to find yourself again, to regain a taste for life and become the person you used to be. I’m going to be straightforward, because there are a few things you need to be aware of that will be crucial to your emotional well-being.

If, for example, your aim is to get an ex back, you absolutely must be aware that he or she won’t get back together with someone who laments, cries and is weak. I could make false promises that everything you do will work, but I’d be lying to you. I have to be frank with you, unlike some people, and be direct. If you don’t rebuild yourself, you’ll be heading straight for the wall! Since self-confidence is essential, you need to regain it before you can take any action with your partner or your ex.

Why is this so important?

Quite simply because your actions and words won’t have any impact if you don’t believe in yourself and if you don’t put all the motivation and determination you need into getting there. I like to use this example because it perfectly symbolizes the situation you may find yourself in. A confident athlete who believes in his or her victory has a better chance of winning than a competitor who arrives on the field with his or her head down and has given way to pessimism.

You’re a sportsman or sportswoman yourself, so never give up!

However, love and self-confidence are not only linked when it comes to breaking up with someone. If only to overcome shyness in love, especially when it comes to seduction, it’s essential to believe in yourself and not to doubt. It’s upstream that you need to work on this famous confidence, otherwise once you’re up against the wall you’ll find it hard to concentrate and take the right action, simply because your thoughts will be elsewhere.

Before you go on vacation, you fill up your car – don’t wait until you’re stuck in traffic with no reserves if you want to travel with peace of mind. In love, you need to be confident before making any plans. For example, you shouldn’t say to yourself “I lack confidence in love and I want to find someone”. Your first priority should be your own confidence, before being in a relationship.

HOW TO BE SELF-CONFIDENT IN LOVE: 3 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW
In love, in relationships and even in seduction, there’s a notion of balance of power that can’t be ignored. To gain or regain self-confidence in love, you need to apply the right actions if you really want to move forward in your life and stop being in demand. That’s how you’ll gain confidence.

DON’T MAKE COMPROMISES THAT MAKE YOU UNHAPPY
I know this may come as a surprise when we talk about married life. However, when you’re in a relationship or in a seduction phase and you want to keep your confidence and not doubt yourself and your potential. It’s essential not to make compromises that could deprive you of happiness. Confidence in love can’t be complete if you accept things that hurt you and prevent you from moving forward emotionally. You have to know how to assert yourself and say no!

RELY ON ACTIONS, NOT WORDS
The mistake that many people make is to base themselves on words and promises, but not on actions. If you want to have confidence in the other person, but above all in yourself, you need to know how to say stop! If he/she can do anything, it’s obvious that he/she won’t change or adapt to you. The consequences? You’ll continue to feel bad! However, if you set limits and are more distant when his/her behavior isn’t right, then you’ll score points!

BUILD A LIFE YOU LIKE
You need to create an environment in which you feel comfortable. As I explained earlier in the article, you have to love your life before you can love someone. Why? Because otherwise you’re going to put yourself in demand and depend on that person. Instead, you need to get that person interested in you. Having outings, fighting routine, having passions, doing original things… that’s how the person you’re interested in will also invest in you, giving you confidence by taking initiative on your behalf.

THE NEED FOR SELF-CONFIDENCE IN LOVE EVEN BEFORE A BREAK-UP
However, since the beginning of this article I’ve been talking about the notion of self-confidence in love when it comes to break-ups, but in reality you need to adopt this conquering, strong, self-confident state of mind right from the start of the relationship. I’ll go even further: you need to do this right from the seduction phase, to show your partner or the person you want to seduce that you believe in yourself, and that’s how you can succeed in seducing him/her.

Many men and women wonder what is the secret of great seducers, it’s not beauty, it’s not looks, or even their topics of conversation. Above all, it’s the fact that they’re convinced they’ll succeed! They don’t look at their shoes, but maintain a powerful, serene gaze on their target, and it’s exactly the same for femmes fatales: it’s their confidence that subconsciously creates an attraction in most people.

In married life, it’s important to have self-confidence, to tell yourself that you’re the partner the other needs. You mustn’t be constantly in doubt, wondering whether there’s something better out there, whether your other half is looking at other men or women, and constantly denigrating yourself. Do you really think you’ll be able to blossom and have the serene relationship you’ve always dreamed of with this attitude? I’m not convinced, and I’m sure you’re not either. So decide to change now.

You don’t have to wait for the most difficult moments, such as separation or incessant arguments, to realize this, even if that’s what most men and women do. Self-confidence is built every day, at work, in the family and with your partner. Life as a couple isn’t always rosy, and you’re likely to experience some difficult moments for one reason or another, which will put a strain on your relationship, but you’ll be able to overcome them.