Does jealousy in love spoil your life and you’d like to be able to fight it? How can you take control of your fears so that you never again have to suffer the fear of losing the other person? How can you work on yourself to overcome jealousy and increase your self-confidence?

Read on…

UNDERSTANDING THE EXACT ORIGIN OF JEALOUSY IN LOVE
I like to start with a precise analysis of the situation. The aim is to stop seeing jealousy as an impossible problem to solve, and instead to look for the solution to your personal fulfillment.
To do this, I use a phrase that sums up the situation perfectly. If you want to gain confidence and be less possessive, you simply have to repeat to yourself:

“A known problem is already half solved”.

If you can work out where your jealousy comes from, or to put it more simply, “why I’m a sickly jealous person”, then it will naturally be easier for you to fight it.

I particularly remember someone who came to see me for a problem of sentimental jealousy. He couldn’t stand the fact that his friend Delphine could go out and have fun when he wasn’t there.

Imagine, he couldn’t spend a single evening in peace when she wasn’t by his side. He was plagued by doubts and fear, and kept telling himself that she would probably “find someone better”. And so the evening degenerated, with no less than one message sent every two minutes. And woe betide her if she didn’t reply!

We worked together to help him control the feeling at the root of his jealousy: the fear of abandonment. He was afraid his partner would find someone more interesting than him. In fact, he was living with the “permanent fear of losing his wife, the one he loved more than anything”.

It wasn’t something that happened overnight; there was a whole context behind it, not least an old break-up dating back several years. When he was still a student, He was in a relationship with a girl and was really looking forward to the future with her. Unfortunately, from one day to the next and for no apparent reason, she left him, never to be heard from again. Years later, the trauma was reawakened by his strong feelings for Delphine.

By carefully analyzing the situation, we were able to establish that the best way to combat his extreme jealousy was to put in place a plan that would enable him to create the life of his dreams and meet his partner’s expectations and needs, while at the same time dealing with his painful love past.

You can say goodbye to your jealousy by working towards well-being and positivity, not by trying to fight it by lashing out at your partner, or by trying to deny your problems. You need to take things one step at a time, because trying to fight jealousy too quickly won’t do you any good.

WHAT DO YOU FEAR BEHIND THIS FEAR OF LOSING YOUR PARTNER?
Now that you’ve been able to pinpoint the fear at the root of your jealousy, you need to go back even further to fight it as quickly as possible. Most of the people I advise think that knowing where it originates is enough to overcome it. Unfortunately, that’s not enough, and you’ll need to explore the emotions you’re feeling in more detail to know where to start. For tips on how to eradicate jealousy from your daily life, this other article will help.

Jealousy in love is the sign of a lack of confidence that you have in your everyday life and that manifests itself in situations where there’s a lot at stake. You can’t fight it if you can’t analyze your emotional feelings and the repercussions that doubt has on you.

Jealousy is really the tree that hides the forest. It means you’re going to have to fight against something much bigger than you thought… It’s you, in other words, your innermost self. To combat all forms of unhappiness and possessiveness, it’s necessary to develop yourself personally and to follow an evolutionary path to better control your life.

Jealousy is simply a reflection of your fears and lack of confidence. That’s why I’m going to guide you step by step to help you reconnect with your self-esteem and forget the stakes of even an unpleasant situation, so you can focus only on what it can bring you next.