Excessive kindness has never led to happiness, and you need to be able to be yourself in all circumstances. Self-confidence comes from the need to remain yourself, i.e. to know how to remain natural. Sometimes, therefore, conflict is the solution to asserting yourself in human relationships. Normally, you’d shy away from conflict, but there are times when it can be useful to give a good kick in the ant-hill. Because, yes, conflict is a way forward. The frustration of never being able to assert yourself and always being in the position of the dominated is more than uncomfortable, and it’s advisable to avoid it as much as possible. That’s why, in this article, we’ll look at how conflict can improve your life.

From now on, you’ll apply and follow all your wishes to learn how to assert yourself and free your mind. You alone are the master of your life, and I assure you that sometimes conflict is the way forward!

CONFLICT ALLOWS YOU TO MOVE FORWARD AND REVEAL YOUR THOUGHTS
At first sight, quarrels or conflicts between couples are not a good thing in a human relationship, and most people do everything in their power to avoid them. From our earliest childhood, we’re taught that we shouldn’t antagonize our friends, colleagues, partner or, worse still, our boss. But if you think about it, in some situations, conflict is the way forward. You can say out loud what others are thinking, and that’s how you’ll be able to assert yourself in the eyes of people who neglect you or don’t value you enough.

For example, there can be positive effects following a conflict in love. I think it’s important to make it clear that I’m not talking about a weekly argument, but rather a confrontation designed to make you more respected. Whether in your love life or in any other field, you must refuse to let anyone disrespect you.

Too often, for fear of reprisals, you let your boss, the person who shares your life or even your sister or father have all the power, and you don’t dare stand up to them, even when they’re wrong. An attitude like this is proof of real emotional dependence in love, or a lack of self-confidence which is obviously bad for you. You run the risk of being stepped on, or of being addressed unkindly. Conflict is the opposite of this attitude, because you take the bull by the horns and “claim” your right to happiness, your right to speak out and your freedom to act. You say what’s on your mind, what you feel, and that can set you free.

Although it may seem paradoxical at first, as you may suffer for suddenly speaking out, you’ll soon realize the benefits of your new resolution. No one will dare walk all over you again. Expressing your feelings will make you feel alive and heard. Afterwards, you won’t be able to do without this feeling. But be careful not to overdo it.

THE LINK BETWEEN CONFLICT AND TRUST
In other words, using conflict to resolve a lack of self-confidence is a way forward, even if it can’t be achieved in a single day or even a few weeks.

As I reminded you a little earlier in this article, I’m talking about confrontation as a way of getting people to react, not about creating an argument just for the sake of making noise. So there must be a real problem you want to solve. For example, if you don’t like the behavior or actions of your partner or manager, you need to react immediately, and sometimes you may have to set the record straight in order to put an end to the behavior.

For some people, acting too “violently” isn’t an option, but sometimes, unfortunately, it’s the only way to show that things aren’t working as they should. Please note, however, that I’m not talking about physical violence.

Tensions need to be resolved before they become too serious. I understand that acting in a confrontational way may seem strange to you, but what can you do when nobody hears your complaints?

OVERCOMING TENSION ONCE AND FOR ALL
In all human relationships, there are moments of doubt, questioning or when we may feel inferior to others for X reasons, and it’s at these moments that conflict allows us to move forward. But only those who are psychologically strong enough can overcome them.

Creating a conflict is also a sign of honesty, because living through such a moment is never a pleasant experience, and if you feel concerned by a problem and are looking for solutions, it’s because you can no longer bear certain things that may hurt you.

You have to trust yourself and say stop when the limits are exceeded! Honesty is an integral part of conflict, because you’re expressing how you feel, but for your own development, it’s necessary not to hide how you really feel. Being assertive also means taking advantage of opportunities.