Whether we like it or not, looks are an integral part of seduction, because to form a solid, stable couple you need to have affinities and be on the same wavelength, but without attraction, it’s impossible to project yourself with a person, because sooner or later this aspect will become an obstacle to the relationship. If you don’t share this opinion, I respect your conception of love and would be happy to exchange views with you in the comments. So far, I haven’t met anyone who’s been in a relationship for a long time but feels no physical attraction for their partner.

This brings me to the topic of the day, which is to embrace your true self in order to seduce. Because yes, some people find it hard to project themselves because of a lack of confidence. It’s important to realize that this phenomenon needs to be worked on on a daily basis, and that you need to be aware of it. There’s a lot of psychological work to be done, but sometimes it’s not enough. That’s why I’ve decided to write an article that’s both theoretical and practical, to help you in your approach.

SELF-CONFIDENCE IS ESSENTIAL FOR SEDUCTION
Without self-confidence, it’s impossible to get ahead in certain areas, especially in the workplace. But that’s not all. When it comes to seduction, not feeling confident also raises many questions about your chances of success, and automatically leads to self-inflicted obstacles. And this happens mainly with people you’re attracted to.

Haven’t you ever noticed that it’s easier to go for someone you don’t feel any particular attraction for, whereas as soon as you meet someone you like physically, you start asking yourself dozens of questions, and immediately the pessimism takes over as you say to yourself these kinds of phrases:

• What if he doesn’t like me?
• I might get turned down,
• I don’t want to be humiliated in public,

In fact, everything becomes almost impossible, whereas 2 minutes before, faced with a woman or a man for whom you felt nothing special, everything might have seemed simple!

True seducers manage to overcome these doubts, no matter who’s in front of them, and have unlimited confidence in their power of seduction. It’s not about feeling superior, but rather about having faith in yourself and mastering the fear of approaching others. Because in reality, seduction is a social relationship, and they see it that way.

But the heart of the problem lies elsewhere, because before you can get to that stage, you have to feel good about yourself, and that starts with a question that takes on its full meaning when you find yourself with multiple faults: how to embrace your true self in order to seduce and find love. There’s nothing presumptuous about being aware of your potential: it’s a way of showing just how interesting and charismatic you can be. In fact, you don’t have to correspond to a feminine ideal (6 feet, dark-haired and blue-eyed) to be a seductive man, just as you don’t have to be tall, blond and buxom to hope to find your Prince Charming. What you radiate is often more important than your looks.

HOW TO EMBRACE YOUR TRUE SELF TO SEDUCE AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF
However, my previous comments do not mean that you should neglect your appearance, whether through your clothes or your looks. Of course, a clean-shaven man who smells of perfume is more attractive than a man with an unkempt, sweaty beard. So the message I wanted to get across is this: even if you don’t fit what we call the norm, you can still find the right person for you. But to do so, you must first accept yourself.

If you don’t accept yourself, how can you expect a stranger to be attracted to you?
So it’s vital to accept yourself as you are, and with what you have to offer. Of course, it’s okay to use artifice to boost your self-confidence. The important thing is to remain true to yourself and the image you wish to project.

It’s also important to play down the seduction phase, so as to treat what is basically a human relationship a little like a game. You need to set yourself challenges and work on yourself in order to build up experience and repartee. This is vital, because if you find yourself up against someone who’s withdrawn, you need to be able to lighten the mood. Yes, it’s not all physical!

But that’s where attraction comes in. For example, if you find that you’ve got a bit of a belly, you may hesitate before embarking on a flirtation in the street, because you’re going to focus on this aspect, whereas the person you’re trying to seduce may not even notice it. In anticipation, you tell yourself that you’ll lose weight before you try anything, but by doing so you’re missing out on a great opportunity that may never come along again.

Nevertheless, I can see how this need can become invasive after a while, and you have to be psychologically ready to seduce, because in my opinion it’s the first barrier to seduction.

TIPS FOR WORKING ON YOUR LOOKS
When you’re thinking about how to look good enough to seduce, the first thing to remember is that you’re going to have to make an effort. So, to feel good about yourself, you need to focus on your most important complexes first and then work on those you consider minor.

For women, the biggest complexes generally concern the buttocks, which aren’t firm enough, aren’t plump enough, aren’t sufficiently shapely or aren’t sufficiently lifted. In short, most women are fixated on their bottom!

For you gentlemen, it’s more a problem of musculature. You’re fixated on abs or biceps, and as a rule you head straight for the gym, setting yourself goals that even Arnold Schwarzenegger would find hard to achieve! Any sports coach worth his or her salt will tell you that to feel good about yourself, you have to set realistic goals, step by step.

That’s why, before you even join a gym, I’d advise you to start by working on all the muscle-strengthening exercises you need to do. And this for about a month. If you don’t have the right reflexes right away, not only will you risk injury but you’ll also quickly lose motivation. I can assure you that patience is essential.

But the good news is that all this positivity will soon have an impact on you and your behavior, and you’ll be able to take charge of your seduction.

Courage for this physical and mental change

Best regards.