When I say that being single at 30 is far from easy, I’m probably not telling you anything new. In fact, there’s pressure from family, with recurring questions like “When are you going to introduce us to someone? There’s also social pressure, because all your friends are in a relationship, so you feel like you’re being left out. But when you do decide to start a relationship and find love, it’s often a failure because you never find someone who matches you or has the same expectations.

WHY IT’S HARD TO FIND LOVE AFTER 30
I was recently talking to someone who said: “There’s nothing worse than being 30 and single! I feel like an alien. In fact, the hardest thing to live with is not being alone, it’s having the impression of being sidelined, of not being part of society, and even of being discredited as a woman”.

So there’s a double complex to being without a sweetheart after the age of 30. And the more you focus on it, the more complicated you feel it’s going to be to find someone good. This is sometimes true, but it’s also because you fall into traps without even realizing it.

THIRTY-SOMETHING SINGLES: THE INTERNET ISN’T ALWAYS YOUR FRIEND!
Let’s be clear: the Internet has had an impact on relationships and seduction. But depending on what you’re looking for, it’s more or less easy to find. If you’re in your twenties and just looking for a fling, no worries.

But when you’re over thirty, the situation is a little different, as this is often the time when you want to settle down.

Unfortunately, it’s not easy to get on the same wavelength as someone you meet on a dating site, because it’s hard to really get to know someone apart from their looks. We’re living in a world where everything’s moving faster, so the other person’s going to want to speed things up. It’s hard to move at the same pace when you have nothing in common.

In short, whether it’s classic dating sites or dating apps, it’s far from easy to find love and get out of celibacy after the age of 30.

SINGLE AT 30: THE SOCIAL CIRCLE DOESN’T NECESSARILY HELP
I’m alone at 30, and everyone around me is settled, so I can’t meet anyone. I’ve heard this phrase over and over again, and if you’ve been single for any length of time, I’m pretty sure you’ve already said it!

Yet there have never been as many single people as there are today… Yes, you read that right! Gentlemen, it’s never been easier to find a single woman in her 30s, or even a little older or younger. And for you ladies, it’s exactly the same. There have never been so many single men over 30! Yet many women are wondering where the men have gone, as this article from Elle magazine explains.

The reality is that there are reasons for this, not least that you may have idealized love or the ideal person. So if you can’t find anyone in your social circle who’s right for you, it’s simply because your standards are too high – and you’re right. Don’t lower your expectations because of failures. At least not right away.

On the other hand, you absolutely must widen your social circle to increase your chances of meeting someone.

YOU COME ACROSS HURT PEOPLE
In addition to not always using the right tools and having an underdeveloped social circle, you can be single at 30 because you only meet hurt people, or even worse, manipulators.

The sentimental past plays a major role in the present, and it’s sometimes difficult to project yourself onto someone who has recently suffered or experienced disillusionment. There’s not only the fear of being just a Band-Aid relationship, but also the fear of falling in love with the wrong person.

What’s more, when you’ve experienced disappointment in love, or even worse, repeated break-ups with the same pattern, you need to protect yourself. And it’s this blockage that on both sides puts up barriers and prevents you from showing your true personality.

IS THERE A TYPICAL PROFILE OF A 30-YEAR-OLD BACHELOR?
In reality, it’s extremely difficult to give a typical profile of the single thirty-something.

The first cliché is sex. It may seem that more women than men complain about being over thirty and alone. Of course, the biological clock may be ticking, but I can assure you that this phenomenon also affects men.

A lot of men have trouble finding a single 30-year-old woman who hasn’t been destabilized by her past love life and is looking for stability. For many men, being single at 30 is a difficult experience, because they feel they can’t find women who have already built something before them. The latter often have children or sentimental baggage that they drag around like a ball and chain, and from which they find it hard to detach themselves.

And then there are the men who find it hard to turn a corner and make a woman fall in love with them and be crazy about them.

But it’s clear that it’s women who are most affected by the idea of being without a partner in their thirties.

There are often two reasons for their celibacy. Either they’re focused on their studies or their professional lives, and are wondering about their love lives once they’ve stabilized their social standing. Or they’ve been in a relationship for a very long time, and have become weary of the routine and want to change their lives. Or, in the last and most common scenario, they were in a relationship but it didn’t work out. Whatever the situation, they ask themselves: I’m 30 and single, what can I do?

But it’s not a pathology! It’s just that you need to think things through, and not just feel sorry for yourself and say, “I’m 30 and single, I’m not normal”. There’s no age for falling in love!

On the contrary, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself or having negative attitudes and thoughts, and take action. But beware: if everything you’ve been doing up to now has fallen by the wayside or hasn’t borne fruit, it’s time to change your attitude, strategy or communication. And for that, I have something concrete to suggest, as I explain below.

TOO MANY SINGLE WOMEN AGED 30 WHO ARE DISAPPOINTED…
Rest assured, they’re not disappointed by love, but by dating sites. And when you consider that the majority of these women have already tried classic dating sites, you’d think the figure must be colossal!

According to a study conducted by people in the dating industry, nearly 7 out of 10 men are looking for a one-night stand. It’s hard to imagine a serious relationship under these conditions. But that’s not all: in reality, only 10% of men are looking for a serious relationship, meaning that 90% of them are just plain losers!

But is this inevitable?

Not really, when you use the right means and understand the basic rules of seduction…

I wish you all the best,