It may come as a shock to you, but guys look at things differently than you do.

You know why I say that?

Because when you look in the mirror, you see that crooked front tooth, the line where your bra sits (you call it your “back fat”), the too-small breasts or the too-large posteriors, your ridiculous knees, weird toes… The list goes on and on.

But do you know what your man sees?

A woman he’d like to undress and occupy himself with right now, maybe even before.

3 ways men see your body…

If you were to ask my man which of my physical assets attracted him, it’s really hard for him to get past the standard “breasts and buttocks” answer you’d get from any man.

You can almost see a physical effort as he drags his sex-starved brain over the chest, over the buttocks and finally he’ll say something like “she’s got great shoulders…”.

Here’s the thing: men see your body in three ways, and it has nothing to do with how you see yourself:

1 – They see what makes you feminine
This means that when they look at you, they immediately see the things about your body that make you feminine. Breasts, hips, buttocks, curves… Even the way you walk. It’s almost impossible for a hot-blooded heterosexual man to notice anything until he reads the parts of your body that say: I’m a woman.

Your arm fat isn’t on that list. Your cellulite is not on this list. Your stretch marks aren’t on this list.

Sorry, folks.

2 – They see what makes you unique
That chipped tooth you hate? They think it’s charming. The bulge? They can’t see it because it’s too close to your buttocks, which they think is the most beautiful thing about you.

Think your lips are too thin? They simply love it when you smile at them with it.

(And truthfully, when they think of your lips on their body, they do not think “Her lips are too thin” I assure you.)

If guys notice a specific part of your body that you think makes you look awful (and I guarantee they’d never use that term) they just think it makes you just… you!

And since it’s you they’re crazy about, they want that part of you as much as any other.

3 – They see what you’re constantly drawing their attention to
This is where you have the power to make or break your relationship.

When you constantly complain about your own body, a man’s desire to enjoy and love you gradually weakens.

In other words, you reject him.

He thinks “I could touch his body all day” and you say “I’m too flabby”.

You’re not just belittling yourself, you’re belittling him – his thoughts, his desires for you, his enthusiasm about you.

And it works the other way around, too. Show off your pedicure (I do, now!), go sleeveless, wear that backless dress, and tease him mercilessly with the body he loves so much.

A man loves a real woman

Of course he looks at naked, “perfect” girls in magazines or on the Internet. And of course you’re bombarded with slim “perfect” girls on catwalks or billboards.

But a photo of perfection – whether real or not – is no match for a living, breathing, intoxicating woman sitting next to a man in a restaurant. Or a little stuck to him in the elevator. Perfection can go hang; you’re up close and personal.

Submissive women are scary. You can be sure that while he may be fantasizing about a playmate of the month, he’ll be choosing a real woman over a figment of his imagination all the time.

Celebrate your body (and let him do it too)!
Of course you want to invest time and energy in a healthy, pretty body. That said, while you’re at it, don’t let your own problems with your body push it away. You deserve all the fabulous attention a man wants to give you…

Best wishes!