Would you like to know how to approach that pretty blonde or brunette sitting alone at lunchtime with her vegan roast beet sandwich?

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Approaching a woman at the restaurant: more difficult than it seems?

On the face of it, the situation seems simple enough.

She’s alone and sitting down.

All you have to do is be a little daring and go over and talk to her.

Actually, that’s mostly true, but things are a little more complicated than that.

In practice, if you approach her like that, you’re likely to disturb her.

HOW DO YOU KEEP IT FUN AND LIGHT WHEN APPROACHING A WOMAN AT THE RESTAURANT?
Actually, the problem is that the situation is a little strange.

If you approach her head-on, she’ll probably find your approach a little too intrusive, and she’ll do whatever it takes to get rid of you as quickly as possible.

Try to put yourself in her shoes.

She’s sitting quietly having lunch.

If you start sitting next to her to talk to her, she may feel trapped.

She knows you’re going to hit on her and she sees you coming like a bull in a china store.

This is exactly the technique used by beggars who come to you for a few coins and young people who work for charities on the street.

They know you’re eating and that you can’t just keep walking and ignoring them.

So they’ll insist again and again.

And to get rid of them, you’re going to have to blow them off.

APPROACH A WOMAN AT THE RESTAURANT: TRY TO PUT YOURSELF IN HER SHOES
Is it possible to get around this obstacle and keep your approach fun when you spot a pretty woman alone at the restaurant?

There she is, sitting alone, sipping a Coke.

Unless she’s terribly attracted to you, she’s likely to be suspicious and ask a few questions:

Question 1: “Is he just here to hit on me?”
That’s what she’ll immediately think.

Whether you talk to her right away or wait a while, she’s not fooled.

She knows you’re there to hit on her.

Question 2: “What if I don’t feel comfortable?”
When you start talking to her while she’s alone having lunch, there’s a good chance she’ll feel vulnerable.

After all, she has no valid excuse for ending the conversation if you’re boring her. She has no way out.

The only way for her to end the discussion is to clearly tell you that she doesn’t feel like talking to you.

And at this stage, she still doesn’t know if you’re a cool guy who can take a rejection with a smile.

So, even before you speak, she’ll be afraid of finding herself in an uncomfortable situation.

TAKE THE PLUNGE AND OVERCOME YOUR OWN DEMONS
You’ll also have to overcome your own anxieties.

It’s always demoralizing to approach a woman and be rejected.

Especially in a public place.

But remember, the most important thing in seduction is to dare!

Learn to step out of your comfort zone, and sooner or later you’ll be rewarded.

In short, take a chance.

Now, let’s take a look at how to flirt at the restaurant.

Step 1: make a good entrance

To make a successful entrance, you need to give her time to get used to your presence.

You also need to make your presence seem natural.

If you’re going to approach a woman at the restaurant, you might as well take advantage of the opportunity for a drink or lunch.

So sit down at a table.

Not at hers, but at a nearby table where you can easily break the ice and start a conversation.

And for a few minutes, do nothing.

Just order your coffee or unwrap your sandwich.

Then start trying to make eye contact.

She’ll start to wonder whether you’re going to talk to her or not.

If she’s smiling and seems relaxed, now’s the time to go for it.

Step 2: break the ice

Here are 5 openers I’ve selected.

1) APPROACH HER IN LINE TO ORDER YOUR COFFEE
For example, if you’re at Starbucks, take the opportunity to approach her in line with the world’s best opener:

“Tea or coffee? What’ll it be?”.

Once she’s answered, you can follow up with “Chair or booth? Now or tomorrow?”

Remember, the “this or that?” opener works for everything and everywhere.

2) ASK HER TO SHARE THE ELECTRICAL OUTLET
More and more coffee shop like Starbucks are offering wifi.

People go there to drink coffee, but sometimes also to work.

And there’s a real war going on over electrical outlets.

All you have to do to start a conversation is tell them you’re running out of battery:

“You really need to save my life. I’ve got a really important meeting in 2 hours… No, really, I’m advising a girlfriend who’s having trouble with her boyfriend. Let me explain…blah, blah, blah.”

The advantage is that she’ll probably be amused to give her opinion, and you’ll be able to get to know her better while sexualizing the conversation.

3) ASK HER TO WATCH YOUR THINGS
Very classic, but still effective.

You settle down next to her.

“Hi, would you mind keeping a little eye on my things while I go wash my hands? I’ll really only be 2 minutes.”

All you have to do is thank her when you get back and start chatting.

The simplest openers are often the best. (Plus, you can introduce yourself and shake her hand)

4) BOUNCE OFF A TOPICAL SUBJECT
Always keep a magazine in your bag and start leafing through it.

All you have to do is look for something juicy and comment on it out loud, then ask for her opinion.

“I’ve heard that women hate men who take too many selfies on social media? Yeah, I think they get a lot of likes. What do you think? Check out this article.”

Same as 2nd example.

She should give you her opinion and allow you to get to know her better and sexualize.

5) “DO YOU THINK THIS IS THE FIRST TIME THEY’VE SEEN EACH OTHER?”
Learn to observe and take advantage of your surroundings.

Look around you. There will always be a couple.

“Hi, I’ll make you a bet. Look at that couple over there. Do you think it’s their first date or not? Whoever loses owes the other a coffee.”

It’s playful, fun and light.

And if you’re really uninspired, approach her with a humorous take on the fact that she’s alone.

Because you’re the one who can brighten up her lunch.

If she’s receptive, here’s what you can come up with:

You: Hi, do you often find yourself alone at lunch?

She: Not always! But sometimes it’s nice to spend a moment alone in the sun.

You: I think you look like a lonely girl from the outside.

She: – You eat alone too.

You: – Would you like to share my table? I’ll cheer up your loneliness with a grilled cheese.. How romantic for a first date. I’m James. And blah-blah-blah”

From there, all you have to do is follow up with what you want.

Step 3: Date time and number taking

If she accepts, you’ll be face-to-face over lunch for an instant date.

From then on, the usual rules apply.

Make her laugh, show her a good time and bring her as many positive emotions as possible.

If all goes well, you should be able to get her phone number before you leave.

And maybe even lock in a 2nd date.

What if things don’t go as planned?

In my opinion, 3 things can happen:

CASE N°1: SHE MAKES IT CLEAR THAT SHE DOESN’T FEEL LIKE TALKING.
In other words, you approach her and when you ask her to share your table for a meal or a drink, she replies that she’d rather be alone at her own table.

From there, you have 2 solutions:

The first is simple: you accept her choice, turn around and finish your meal in peace.
Game over. Rejection happens, and it’s not fatal.

Alternatively, you can play your last card and see how she reacts:
“In reality, I’m sure you’re not that happy about eating alone. But you’ve been pestered so much by heavy flirts that you don’t even know a nice guy when you see one. That’s my sad life… 😉 “

And see how she reacts.

CASE N°2: SHE TELLS YOU THAT SOMEONE WILL BE JOINING HER
This is usually the truth.

Now that you’ve settled in too, she’s not going to tell you she’s expecting someone if it’s not true.

So go back to your meal quietly until the person she’s waiting for arrives.

If it’s a girlfriend, you can then try to get the interaction going again.

Try to get the 2nd girl involved and on your side.

“so that’s why you didn’t want to have lunch with me! You prefer tall, fiery brunettes!”

And see how things develop and if it makes them laugh to spark a conversation.

CASE N°3: SHE’S ABOUT TO LEAVE
Sometimes you’ll approach her only to find she’s about to leave, having finished her drink or meal.

In this case, it’s probably best to put your cards on the table and be enterprising.

If she seems receptive, ask her to stay with you for a few minutes while you eat your sandwich.

If she accepts, you can be sure she’s really interested in you.

If she doesn’t have the time, try to get her number so you can contact her again.

Conclusion

The most important thing when approaching a woman alone is to keep it fun and light.

You really don’t want to be labeled as just another heavyweight who’s going to spoil the few minutes of peace and quiet she’s enjoying.

On the contrary, you need to add value and make sure she has a good time with you.

If you open the conversation by flirting about the fact that you see her so alone on such a big terrace, for example, you’re more likely to get her to play along and take it with a smile.

And the good news is that you’ve stepped out of your comfort zone.

And one thing’s for sure: if you keep at it, you’ll get more and more comfortable socializing with women, and you’ll definitely get results…