How to find love with a capital L? Deep down, we’d all like to love and be loved for who we are. But these days, the search for a soulmate is more like a never-ending road to the cross than a pleasure trip.

We’ve all been disappointed, hurt, betrayed and probably even cheated on. Many of you have no doubt retained deep scars from previous experiences that have gone wrong, and no longer know how to go about trying to find the right person for you.

If you’re feeling lost and on the verge of depression, you need to read this article. I’m giving you 7 tips that will help you ask the right questions and make the encounter that will lead to a loving relationship…

1) TO FIND LOVE, BUILD UP YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE
If you’re here, it’s probably because you typed into the search engine something like “tips for finding love”.

Maybe you’ve been single for months, taking one rake after another and don’t really know how to get out of the downward spiral and meet a woman you like.

Maybe you’re even afraid of approaching a woman and are on the verge of giving up.

All right, then. You’ve come to the right place to start turning things around.

It’s time for a complete change of mindset.

Learn to find yourself beautiful, intelligent and interesting.

If this isn’t the case, it’s up to you to take charge and do what’s necessary to change what you don’t like about yourself.

Whether it’s your physical appearance, your look, your hairstyle, your job or anything else.

If you think you’re small, ugly and dull, chances are women will feel it too and lose interest in you.

So rule N°1: you are the prize.

Women are used to being put on a pedestal and having lots of men chasing after them.

The best way to seduce them is to reverse the roles.

From now on, in your mind, you have to be a challenge for women. The one they’re going to struggle to get.

2) FIND TRUE LOVE BY WIPING THE SLATE CLEAN
If you want to find love, you need to get things clear in your head and in your life.

If you’re still in love with your ex, take the time to grieve and really move on before you jump into a new relationship.

Otherwise, you’re not going to make a full commitment. You’ll always be sitting on the fence, wondering whether your ex will come back to you.

And that’s bound to create a lot of tension in your new relationship.

So before you start dating, you need to be ready to welcome someone into your life.

This also means that you shouldn’t develop resentment towards women. No matter how much they may have hurt you.

Maybe your ex cheated on you. Maybe you’ve been lied to. Maybe you’ve been dumped via Messenger. Maybe you’ve got plenty of good reasons to be disappointed and angry with certain people.

But not all women are the same, and just because it didn’t work out once doesn’t mean it never will.

So don’t put all women in the same basket.

And stay positive by telling yourself that “honest women do exist.”

Before you fill your life, you’re going to have to make the effort to purge it of all its negativity.

3) TO MEET SOMEONE, DON’T FIXATE ON BEING SINGLE
If that’s all you think about, you’re going to get into a negative spiral from which you won’t be able to escape.

You’re single and you’re not having any luck?

That’s just fine. Take the opportunity to take a break and take some time for yourself.

With modern life and salaried work taking up more and more of your time, there are millions of things you’d like to do, but you never find the time to do them.

You know what you have to do.

When you’re not in a relationship, you have a little extra time on your hands.

Now’s the time to read all those books in your library that you never get around to opening. Watch those movies and TV series you’ve been hearing about for ages.

Think about what’s really important to you and try your hand at some new projects.

Change jobs? Negotiate a raise? Put money aside to go to overseas for 2 weeks? Spend more time with your family?

In short, it’s up to you to do the things that will make you feel good about yourself and help you forget the fact that you’re single.

Above all, don’t feel sorry for yourself.

There’s really nothing less attractive than all those guys who complain endlessly about not having a woman in their lives.

You’ll look like a desperate man in need, ready to hang on to any woman he can find so he doesn’t have to face his loneliness.

Don’t get depressed, and put on your best smile for the world to see. Smile at life (and at girls) and stop complaining.

4) TO FIND LOVE, KNOW YOURSELF
For a relationship to work, the woman you’re about to meet has to want to become a lasting part of your life project. To share it with you and even make it her own.

In the same way, you’ll need to take into account her dreams, values and aspirations, so that each of you can reach your full potential.

So, it’s all very well to want to find love at any price, but try to concentrate on finding someone who’s right for you.

Above all, ask yourself this simple question: are you ready to welcome someone into your life?

Do you really want to start a long-term relationship, or would you prefer to keep your single life as it is and keep having sexfriends/friends with benefits?

Did you say you were looking for love? Real love? OK.

Well, to find out if you can make it work, you need to know for yourself what you’d like to do with your life. Knowing what your values are and knowing on which subjects you’re ready to make concessions or not.

So it’s up to you to imagine the ideal life you’d like to have and to set priorities:

• Do you want to live in your current country or abroad?
• In the city or in the country?
• Do you give priority to career and money or to family?
• Do you want children or not at all?
• Do you prefer to live on the move, or are you more of a homebody?

These are all questions that will arise sooner or later in the course of your relationship.

So it’s best to think about them right away, and become immediately aware of who you are.

If your plan is to move to the countryside as soon as possible to have a quiet garden, while the girl you’ve just met is a trendy urbanite who swears by shopping afternoons in the capital, chances are that in the long term it won’t work out between you.

It’s best to find out right away and avoid wasting your time, money and energy.

5) MEETING LOVE: DEFINE WHAT YOU WANT FROM THE PERFECT RELATIONSHIP
Once you know who you are, it will be easier to realize whether a relationship with a woman can work or not.

You now have an idea of the most important criteria you’re looking for in your partner.

But be reasonable.

You need to know that no relationship will ever be perfect.

You’ll never meet a woman who perfectly meets all your criteria.

Try to visualize your ideal, but don’t stay totally focused on it.

That’s exactly how you could miss out on a great encounter.

Rather than sticking to this fantasized perfection that is by nature unattainable, we advise you to focus on the 3 criteria that are most important to you.

“What if I fall in love with a woman who doesn’t even meet these 3 criteria?”

Well, if you’re in love and she’s also in love with you, what’s the problem?

Try living this relationship and you’ll see where it all leads.

Maybe, like me, it will end in time, but maybe not. You never know.

Do you like it? Take a chance. And if things don’t go so well on the landing, I’ll always be there to help you get back on track and come back even stronger!

6) LEARN TO PUT YOURSELF FORWARD FOR SUCCESSFUL ENCOUNTERS
A man is a product like any other, and when you’re trying to seduce a woman, the product is you.

So don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, to show what makes you you and what makes you unique.

Learn to talk about your job, your passions or your habits.

Are you a geek? Assume it.

Are you shy? Embrace it.

Learn to show off.

Find anecdotes about your first name, your year of birth, your zodiac sign or your childhood.

Think about the episodes in your life that reveal the most about who you are.

A woman wants to know who you are so she can project herself and have an idea of what her life could be like if she were to commit to you.

So offer her the quintessence of yourself.

7) REGISTER ON DATING SITES
If you’ve never tried your hand at registering on a dating site, now’s the time to give it a try.

Add as many possibilities as possible to your seducer’s arsenal.

After all, once you’ve made the rounds of the friends of friends of friends, the girls in your graduating class and your gym, why not try your hand at online dating.

Frankly, once you’ve fallen in love, does it really matter whether you meet physically or virtually? It really doesn’t.

CONCLUSION
The quest for love is never easy.

It may even be a bit like looking for a needle in a haystack.

My final piece of advice is to “tremble, but dare”.

Get out of your house, become a “yes man” and accept all the offers you can get.

Approach the women you like and tell them clearly that you like them and would like to see them again.

But once you’ve met the right person, don’t think you’ve reached the end of the road.

Quite the contrary, in fact.

That’s when the hard part begins.

You’re going to have to make your love last.

Remember. Even once you’re a couple, the seduction continues.

Certainly in a different form. But if you let yourself go and forget the fundamentals of seduction, you’ll soon pay a high price.

Best wishes!