“But anyway, girls like good-looking guys with Appolon bodies, not overweight guys…”. That’s pretty much what you’ll find in the heads of most overweight guys, who think that flirting with women when you’re overweight is unplayable, and that they’d better give up.

If you’re having trouble seducing girls you like because you think you’re too overweight to seduce, you seriously need to read on…

How to pick up women when you’re overweight: a complex that goes back a long way…

You’ve heard it before: kids are fierce with each other on the playground. Overweight boys and girls are among our preferred victims.

I can’t even count the number of horrible nicknames given to the overweight kid in class.

But harassment and mockery don’t stop at school, of course: in society and at work, the term “fatphobia” is used to describe the discrimination suffered by overweight/obese people.

Society likes the norm, the average, not the variations: skinny people are trimmed and called anorexic, and overweight people are even more mocked than others.

And I’m not going to rub it in: overweight people know all the disadvantages of their weight…

Persistent urban legend: “overweight people have small penises”.
Weight and size make it hard to dress

Sweaty odor, perspiration problems
Heart and respiratory diseases, back pain…
Discrimination in hiring: obese people are statistically more numerous among the poor than among the rich. Being obese has therefore become a kind of social marker” …)
I’ll let you read up on all the correlations between overweight and disease, it’s scary.

In the past, overweight people were dreamt of for their strength and reassuring aspect, but today they are a prime target for our hygienist society, whose motto is “where there’s a will there’s a way”.

In other words: “If he wanted to, he could take care of himself. If he stays overweight, it’s just that he’s too weak mentally and lacks the discipline to get moving.

Well, now that we’ve seen all the complicated aspects of an obese man’s life… how does it work with the girls?

Can a overweight guy appeal to girls?

There’s no universal answer, as you’d expect.

As you can imagine, there’s no universal answer.

For some, seduction is linked to weight, religion and a wallet: why not? Who are we to judge this choice of survival?

Others, when I investigated the seductive power of obese people, admitted to me that “basically, they weren’t my type of guy, but they’re less of a headache than others, they know they’re not at the top of the social pyramid, so they’re more human, less concerned by my daily shortcomings”.

Another choice then, that of preferring a less “dangerous” man, who will be less attractive to other women.

Some fall for the teddy bear side of the beast! “It’s my teddy bear! Before him, I didn’t like the big ones or the furry ones, but now I’ve got a taste for the whole package. I like being in his arms, it’s probably the protective side, I feel like a little thing sheltered in his big arms”.

Here are a few tips for flirting with overweight girls.

I’ll spare you the “gym – running – get back to exercise” advice – you’re old enough to handle yourself.

But you know as well as I do that a better body means a better mind, and that drive and motivation are masculine characteristics that go hand in hand with willpower!

Adopting masculine characteristics to seduce when you’re overweight

The truth is, men are lucky not to be judged on their looks.

Let me repeat: men are lucky not to be judged only on their looks.

Let’s face it: you see a woman, you like her physically or you don’t, that’s it. That’s often the end of their first phase of attraction.

Women, on the other hand, give you the benefit of the doubt… they’re often a little deeper than men are, and they’re looking to find out who’s hiding beneath that bodily envelope.

If you’re trying to seduce a woman and you’re overweight, remember that women don’t see you as overweight.

Let me rephrase: if you’ve got personality, if you’re funny and charming, witty and good company, she won’t go to her girlfriends and say “I’ve got a date with an overweight guy”, but “I’ve got a date with a killer guy”!

What are these masculine qualities?

Leader of men
Generous
Family-oriented
Intelligent
Good-natured
Funny
Financially independent
Reassuring
Listening
Stylish
Motivating
Encouraging
Disciplined
Has plans, chooses life rather than endures it
Exemplary
Motivated
Well-integrated with a good social circle

Being overweight and seducing a woman are not mutually exclusive. Develop your girl trap! Develop your human qualities!

And because I like to end on a positive note, keep this in mind.

It’ll help you sexualize the conversation even more easily: overweight guys are the best lovers, more attentive, more focused on pleasing the ladies!

Best wishes!