It’s not always easy to have harmonious relationships with others. In fact, on a day-to-day basis, our relationships tend to be conflictual and complicated. So how can you live peacefully with others ? Here are 8 powerful keys that will help you get along wellwith others and maintain strong, healthy relationships.

1 – Manage your emotions better

First of all, I’ve noticed that to have more harmonious relationships with others, knowing how to manage your emotions is essential. Indeed, if we spend all our time getting angry, stressed or grumbling all the time, we shouldn’t be surprised if our relationships are conflictual.

In fact, your emotions have an impact on the quality of your relationships. Quite simply, because other people aren’t your emotional dustbins. Other people don’t have to suffer your anger or listen to you grumble for hours on end.

So understand that to live at peace with others, you need to be at peace with your emotions. Now, this doesn’t mean you can’t express your emotions, not at all. Just don’t let them spill over so much.

What’s more, learn to stop letting other people’s emotions upset you so much. After all, other people also give in to anger, stress and bad moods. When this happens, walk away, because you’re not responsible for other people’s emotions. If they need help, help them. If not, go for a walk (laughs).

2 – Taking care of yourself to live in peace with others

I’ve also noticed that fatigue and stress put us in a bad mood, and this has a negative impact on our relationships. That’s why, to live in peace with others, you need to take care of yourself! In other words, take care to rest and soothe yourself when you feel the need.

Give yourself the right to take time out to boost your physical and mental energy levels. Otherwise, you’ll come into conflict with the people who cross your path.

3 – Cultivate empathy to live in peace with others

Sometimes we lack empathy. In other words, we have such high expectations of certain people that the slightest mistake makes us feel slighted.

What if we put empathy back into our relationships? What if we tried to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes and understand them?

Empathy is powerful, because it invites us to look for the positive, the very best in every person. Whereas in everyday life, we tend to imagine the worst in others.

That’s why cultivating empathy is so essential to living in peace with others.

4 – Don’t try to be right to live in peace with others

If our relationships are so conflictual, it’s because our beloved ego pushes us to fight pointless battles, all the time! Useless battles like getting the other person to acknowledge at all costs that they said this or that 2 weeks ago… In reality, does it really matter?

In fact, ask yourself if all the arguments you experience day after day are really important? The answer to 99% of them is no. So isn’t it time you let go of all that and live in peace with the people around you?

So, the next time you’re tempted to make a remark to someone, first ask yourself if it’s really important. Or is it just your ego’s desire to be right at all costs?

5 – Resolve conflicts quickly rather than letting them fester and communicate

Most of the relationship conflicts we encounter in our lives are conflicts we could have resolved very quickly. I don’t mean easily, but quickly.

Indeed, when we come into conflict with someone, we tend to go into our corner and brood over our anger or frustration, then start imagining reasons why the other person did this or that.

In fact, we stay in our corner and aggravate the conflict rather than communicate with others. Because rather than ruminating and making hasty, completely imaginary judgments, we should be communicating with others.

It’s not easy, but it’s essential. Go and see the other person, make the first move, because that’s what living at peace with others is all about. This advice just changed everything in my relationships and therefore in my life. So, what are you waiting for?

6 – Don’t keep score to live in peace with others

I’ve noticed that the thing that most spoils our relationships is our tendency to keep score. In other words, when we do something for the other person, we expect them to do something in return.

So it’s true that for a relationship to be harmonious, the notion of reciprocity is important. But it’s also important to be able to overlook it from time to time.

Because when we’re keeping score, we’re forgetting something essential: the most important thing is love. And love isn’t something we can quantify, nor should we try to. Because when we do, the relationship is no longer free or harmonious. It becomes unhealthy and negative.

7 – Know how to set personal limits and respect those of others

We’re all different, and there are things that suit us and things that don’t. And these things are unique to us, to our personality and our history too. And these things are unique to us, to our personality and our history too. And it’s the same for the people around us.

That’s why it’s essential for a harmonious relationship that everyone feels free and mature enough to express their own limits and respect those of others.

In other words, learn to say no and learn to take no for an answer.

8 – Knowing how to forgive and sincerely love others to live in peace with others

And then we’re human beings, we have emotions, moments when we’re more or less in a bad mood, so we’re clumsy or we make mistakes.

That’s why it’s essential to know how to forgive others and how to ask for forgiveness too. We’re not perfect, and we never will be. But we can forgive ourselves.

What’s more, I’ve noticed that to live at peace with others is above all to make a choice: to love others. To love them with all our heart. To stop judging and condemning them, and to love them sincerely.

Because it’s not so much the others who need to change, but rather the way we look at them. Indeed, we need to learn to look at others in a more benevolent, more loving way. What do you think? Will you do it?

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I invite you to read these 2 complementary articles:

Discover How to calm your stress? Live a more peaceful life
Discover How to communicate easily? Best 4 tips for better relationships

I recommend this inspiring book on the subject:

The Giver by Lois Lowry
In a world that is seemingly utopian, this novel looks at the implications of suppressing one’s emotions and memories in order to keep the peace. It raises questions about the true cost of living in a seemingly harmonious environment.
A brilliantly written book with issues that are still very, very topical.

Thank you very much for reading this article.

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Take care of yourself.