How many decisions do you make every day? About ten? Twenty or so? Or even a hundred, especially if you have a busy day? Whatever your answer, you’re probably way off the mark. In fact, human beings make 35,000 decisions every day. That’s right, 35,000! That’s according to a study conducted by Huawei for the launch of the Mate 10 Pro. But in the vast majority of cases, we don’t really realize it. All this to say that our lives are a succession of decisions. But making the right choice is another story altogether!

It’s all the more difficult when we know that we have many options and opportunities at our fingertips. What’s more, some of these decisions have minimal consequences. Like, what to wear to dinner? Red or black tie? While others can influence the rest of our lives. Is he really the right man for me? Should I go to medical school or art school? Should I change jobs? In short, the examples are endless.

But did you know that it’s possible to make the right choice in all circumstances? Yes, all it takes is adopting more effective habits. So here are 6 ways you might find them useful.

Always trust your intuition, your instinct

“Follow your first instinct, it often turns out to be the right one.”

It’s important to remember this first, because we’ve become accustomed to thinking too much. This generation is made up of young people who think too much! What if it doesn’t work? What if I’m wrong? What will I do if things go wrong? For many people, making the right choice requires a great deal of thought. First you have to weigh up the pros and cons. You have to analyze everything from top to bottom. It’s essential to eliminate all possible doubts before taking sides. But the fact is, this is not the right approach.

Although the ability to reason is imperative, studying the question a thousand and one times always ends up having the opposite of the desired effect. Why is this? Because when you look, you’ll find. You’ll find problems, risks, difficulties, obstacles… And that’s the best way to take away your desire to make the right choice, because you’re not sure of yourself. You’ll quickly give up. You’ll remain in a state of uncertainty and indecision. And all you’ll do is think, without ever taking action.

But what if you broke this habit today? What if you started by developing your intuition? Quite simply!

Listen to your inner voice.
Observe your emotions. Welcome them without judgment.
Write down your thoughts and feelings. This will help your subconscious to open up.
Pay attention to your dreams. They can give you important information that you may not have access to when you’re awake.

MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICE ALSO MEANS DARING TO CHOOSE
“Not to choose is still to choose.”

Indeed, we often tend to think that by ignoring the problem, it will solve itself; that by running away, we can’t make things worse. So we sit back and do nothing, because maybe that’s the best thing to do. What’s more, when we’re faced with difficult decisions, we quickly become afraid. And that’s perfectly normal, especially when the stakes are so high.

But under no circumstances should this feeling prevent you from moving forward. It’s simple: making the right choice is impossible if you don’t take courage. If you want to achieve happiness, you have to take risks. Inaction is never a solution! Otherwise, you’ll be a spectator of your own life, watching it slip away before your very eyes. So, from now on, dare to make your own choices.

At this stage, it’s important to :

Define your vision and know your intention;
Develop your self-confidence;
Challenge yourself to excel;
Make a commitment;
Learn from your mistakes (making the right choice will become easier if you know what to avoid);
Develop your audacity;
Etc…

DON’T FEAR FAILURE
“Failure is an integral part of our success.”

This is simply to say that there is no such thing as a perfect decision. No decision is good or bad in itself. Everything depends on context and circumstances. When you’re faced with difficult decisions, remember that life itself is made up of uncertainty. Many parameters can change the course of your life. So consider that to choose is to try something new.

What’s more, making the right choice is not an exact science. It’s about taking action, not remaining passive. In the face of hardship, you must not hesitate to take risks. If it turns out that you made a mistake, that’s okay! You can always use it to improve. It’s like being at a crossroads with several roads. If you take one of them, you’ll realize that: it leads directly to your destination, it’s too long or it leads you down a dead end. Either way, you’ll have had an enriching experience.

MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICE MEANS STEPPING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
“First you have to dare, then you have to measure out.”

Most of the time, you have trouble making up your mind simply because you’re afraid of the consequences. This fear is usually rooted in your upbringing, beliefs or past experiences. As a result, you find yourself at an impasse because you’re blocked by stereotypes. You feel that your wish or desire doesn’t fit in with what should be or with who you are.

So you prefer to stay in your comfort zone. But remember, doing the right thing means not being afraid of failure. Remember what we said in the previous paragraph.

So:

Set out to discover new things, no matter how insignificant, and make it a habit;
Don’t be afraid of discomfort;
See failure as a learning opportunity;
Experiment, as much as possible;
Surround yourself with people who dare to take risks (so will you);
Find advantages in every situation;
Don’t take everything so seriously;
Give yourself permission to have fun;
Find new challenges for yourself;
Rationalize your fear;
Simply be optimistic.

MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE WITH POSITIVITY
“Life is not about waiting for storms to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.”

The right decision is a positive one. It means deciding not to avoid or run away from your problems. For example, leaving the family home to avoid conflict with your parents, or dropping out of school for no reason, are rather negative attitudes. Acting in this way means running away from obstacles and not wanting to face adversity. But you’ll never get ahead under these conditions.

That’s because doing the right thing means seeing an opportunity for improvement in every situation. It means seeing a solution rather than a problem when difficulty arises. However, this doesn’t mean seeing the world through a rose-colored filter. It’s about being optimistic. But it also means asking the right questions.

Let’s take an example.

You’re not finding fulfillment in your job.
Rather than resigning immediately, first think about why you’re bored at work.
Why do you find it hard to cope with your job? What do you miss about it? To make the right choice, you need to know yourself.
How can you turn things around? Would a professional retraining be the best solution, or is it your own fault?
If you ignore this self-assessment, the problem will arise again and again!

LEARN TO PUT THINGS INTO PERSPECTIVE
“Life will throw rocks in your path. It’s up to you to decide whether to turn them into walls or bridges.” .

Learning to put things in perspective means being able to question your certainties and innovate. It’s about looking beyond your own nose. It means being convinced that every problem has a solution. Indeed, making the right choice means taking a global view of each situation. What’s more, don’t forget that your thoughts become your reality. Your state of mind automatically influences your approach to life and the way you handle problems. It can shape your expectations, which in turn affect your motivation.

More concretely, if you tell yourself from the outset that failure is inevitable, it really is.
On the other hand, if you’re convinced that you’ll succeed, you’ll succeed because you’ll keep looking for better alternatives to achieve your goals. In this case, it becomes very easy to make the right choice. After all, a constructive philosophy generates the best chances of a good experience.
So beware of your imagination.
Make sure it doesn’t lead you in the wrong direction. Always leave room for positivity. Remember, no situation is set in stone! You decide what happens next. And even when things get out of hand, you can still decide how you’re going to react. Unfortunately, it’s not that simple. When problems arise, it can feel like circumstances can only get worse. But doing the right thing means getting rid of this pessimistic pattern.

In fact, if you keep the faith and think positively and constructively, you can do better. You’ll have no trouble doing amazing things. Sometimes, all you have to do is let time pass and resist the temptation to overreact and make the problem worse. Give yourself a break. Take a step back and take a leap forward.

So :

Focus on the good things, on what you have rather than what you don’t (this will help you make the right choice);
Be grateful for everything, keep a gratitude journal if you have to;
Decide to be in a good mood every time you wake up;
Surround yourself with good vibes by spending time with cheerful people or by redoing your playlist, choosing only the songs that give you a boost (you’ll end up in the same frame of mind);
Use positive affirmations to motivate yourself;
Identify your negative thoughts and tendencies and break the cycle;
Start each day on a positive note…

In conclusion

Life is an adventure, and every experience is a plus. Making the right choice doesn’t mean making a perfect, flawless decision. It’s knowing how to make the tough choices in life with a positive attitude. Of course, it’s perfectly normal to feel stressed, to hesitate and to make mistakes. But don’t let yourself be dominated by the fear of failure. If you get it wrong, it’s not so bad. That’s for another time!

You can learn from your mistakes to move forward. In fact, that’s the best way to progress and improve as a person. What’s more, doing the right thing also means experimenting with new things. Remember that things aren’t always as bad as they seem. There’s always something to learn from them. It’s essential to keep the right perspective, especially when things get tough.